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Something Is Wrong With Me 
I know I have a bad anger problem. I'm 30 and had a really rough life. Eight years in prison, never had friends, have a lot of trust issues with women,...

I'm In A New Marriage And I'm Having Anger Problems 
I have been married for about two years. This is my second marriage. My first marriage ended because my ex-husband was dating someone else. Ever since,...

Compulsive Anger Addict 
Hi. I am 25 years old female. I am a very pleasant person, very accommodating, sweet, social and friendly.

I have been seen as short-tempered. When ...

Uncontrollable Anger Over Trivial Stuff 
I was one of those kids that would feel persecuted and get so mad I'd destroy objects that meant a lot to me. And then I would realize what I had done ...

My Anger Is Upsetting My Marriage 
Within the last five months, I have become extremely sensitive to everything. I take things out on everyone, and I am always fighting. My defense mechanism ...

Angry Or Stupid? 
The love of my life is cheating on me and has been for 6 months. However, I am 18 years old, and he is 22. We moved across the globe to run a business,...

I'm Concerned About Myself 
Dr. DeFoore, thanks for your site. It's great. Since I've started to think about anger though, I'm finding I'm getting angry. Furiously angry. I don't ...

Rage Crazy 
I was dating this guy who seemed to have it all together. He was sweet, charming, made great money, and handsome. We had gone on a couple of dates and ...

No Hope For A 26 Year Old Girl Who Is Lost And Feeling Like There Is No Way Out 
First off I am going to make it short because there is a lot. My name is Vanessa. I am 26 years old, and married.

I think I am an angry person because ...

My Anger Is So Unreasonable My 4 Year Old Daughter Is Afraid Of Me  Not rated yet
I'm 43 years old. I have always had a problem with anger and even now I've elevated to rage. I feel like I must be mentally ill.

I see a counselor ...

Need Help With My Hair Trigger Anger  Not rated yet
My name is Ryan, and I have an anger problem. My problem is going to make my girlfriend leave me. I don't want to be angry, I don't like it, but when I ...

My Big Mouth  Not rated yet
I had planned for my boyfriend and I to have a wonderful weekend for his birthday. Room paid for, romantic dinner and a trip to the top of the Empire ...

I Keep Walking Away In Anger  Not rated yet
Whenever I feel I can't handle a situation in my relationship with my boyfriend I always take off and disappear for a few hours. He then thinks that I'...

My 20 Year Old Nephew Is In Trouble And Needs Help  Not rated yet
My sister's youngest son has violent, vulgar anger issues. When PJ was in school he wasdiagnosed with anger management problems and while in school was ...

Angry Little Thing  Not rated yet
I never thought that I would ever ever be an angry person, but then I met my mom.

She came back into my life when I was seven and she tried to buy ...

I Hit My Boyfriend When He Insults Me In An Argument  Not rated yet
Okay, so my story is really crazy. I met my boyfriend through Myspace. We talked on the phone for a couple of months and hung out as friends for like one ...

Am I Angry Or Do I Just Get Pushed To The Limit?  Not rated yet
I grew up with 4 older brothers who picked on me and were not loving. I learned to be cocky, hide my feelings and strike out at others. I say it like it ...

Short Temper And Frustration  Not rated yet
Well, I have been seeing my girlfriend for about a year now. When it comes to us, things are perfect. Our biggest and only issue is the kids.

She has ...

My Anger About the Last Six Months  Not rated yet
I am 24 and live with my family and have a child who I see often. When my relationship with his mother broke down in 2008 I was hurt and angry for a short ...

Hurting The One I Love  Not rated yet
Hello,

I keep on hurting my boyfriend with how angry I get and he has almost left me because of it. He says that he doesn't have expectations that I ...

Horrible Person  Not rated yet
I get mad at the littlest things and stay mad for a long time, most of the time it's not even worth getting mad at. I take it out on my loved ones and ...

Losing It Over Nothing   Not rated yet
Sometimes I will see or hear something and I don't think about what that might actually mean. Then my mind sets in one decision as to what it may be, then ...

Anger & Addictions  Not rated yet
Six years ago we were the perfect couple - or so I thought. Not long after we moved in together, my partner's children had the police at our front door ...

Anger Towards My Step-son's Defiant Behavior Has Led To Marriage Problems  Not rated yet
I have a 13 year old step-son who I have been raising for 4 years now. He has issues with defiant behavior, stealing, and lying. I have become frustrated ...

Focus Fire  Not rated yet
I don't know where to begin. My husband has morphed into an anger monger and he is taking me with him. He is awesome, but there is this anger that "happens"...

Losing Ones I Care For Because Of Rage  Not rated yet
My fiance' just left me two days ago because my anger absolutely scares her. When I sang or screamed in a band I was in it allowed me to release the tension ...

Betrayed  Not rated yet
Six months after my husband and I got married, he confesses all to me. He has slept with prostitutes and been lying to me about it for years. This is my ...

Need To Fix My Abusive Fiance  Not rated yet
My fiance often verbally abuses me and his 14 year-old daughter. I'm not sure if it is a cultural thing but he seems to think he is right. And his mom ...

Husband Over Reacts With Rage  Not rated yet
My husband of 18 years has occasions where he completely over reacts with anger. He yells and lays blame and insults in the most over-the-top manner. My ...

I've Lost Tthe Love Of My Life Because Of My Rage  Not rated yet
I suppose punishing myself by constantly breaking up and raging at the love of my life was my own doing. Maybe I don't feel like I deserve to be loved....

Sad, Scared, And Wanting To Change  Not rated yet
I'm 26 and throughout my life since I was a child I was a victim of molestation and also verbal abuse by my parents. I was never good enough and was always ...

Anger In Denial  Not rated yet
I have a grown son of 23 who is now married and has a baby who's just turned a year in April. He and his partner had only 'dated' for 3 months before she ...

What To Do?  Not rated yet
My husband and I both have issues with anger and depression, but most importantly we are expecting our first child soon. I want us to be better.

Response ...

I Am Always Provoked To Wrath  Not rated yet
Hi Dr. DeFoore

I really would like your help with dealing with anger issues. I find myself being verbally and physically abusive to the people that ...

My Anger Is Hurting My Family And Could Cost Me My Marriage  Not rated yet
I am married for 6 years with 2 kids. Recently my husband has moved out because of the marriage problems we have been going through for a while now.

We ...

Why Do I Actually Attack People?  Not rated yet
My name is Candy and I am 34 years old. I have recently noticed that I might be out of control with physically attacking people. I remember the first time ...

Built Up Frustrations  Not rated yet
I hate my life. I used to be a very happy and a bubbly person but now I'm just bitter. I can't find happiness in anything. I have a beautiful 3 year old ...

Lost Two Wonderful Men In One Year Due To My Insecurity And Anger   Not rated yet
After a long journey of trying multiple meditation techniques, seminars, etc. and having ended 2 relationships with 2 great men in the course of less than ...

Drinking, Anger, Violence  Not rated yet
I have realized in the past couple of weeks that I have a problem! But I don't know how to deal with it.

My boyfriend of 2 years just moved out of ...

My Husband Is So Angry At The World  Not rated yet
I want to know how to help my husband. He is angry about everything. He seems to deal with every emotion by getting mad.

It runs the gamut--from constantly ...

Intelligent, Beautiful Mother Stuck In Abusive Relationship And Scared To Get Out  Not rated yet
My parents have been married for over 40 years, and my mother has been abused almost every day of her married life. She came from a traditional Catholic ...

What To Do?  Not rated yet
I am an overweight divorced mother of two. I believe in a higher power, yet I believe there is more I need to do, but this is where I am stuck.

I get ...

My Anger And My Drinking  Not rated yet
I finally accepted I have anger management issues about a week ago, after an altercation with a dear friend. This wasn't the first time I disrespected ...

Anger Cost Me My Family  Not rated yet
I grew up in a home with a depressed father trying to find himself in a bottle and coming home intoxicated--that was the weekend norm since my birth. He ...

A Fight With My Wife  Not rated yet
We just got back from the bar. We had a wonderful time with friends, and my wife started talking about an issue she's been dealing with for most of her ...

Been Through Enough  Not rated yet
Dear Dr, please help. I don't know who to turn to. I'm 32 years old and as far as I'm aware I've had an anger problem since my 1st relationship. My mum ...

I Feel Angry Because I Feel Disrespected  Not rated yet
I am so angry today because my boyfriend did not come home last night, and did not call. We live together. He works until around 2am and he said he ...

The Anger Pen  Not rated yet
It all starts about six in the morning, still angry about the day before. I'm angry about brushing my teeth, putting on deodorant and all personal hygiene,...

Out Of Control Single Mom  Not rated yet
I am the survivor of an alcoholic home, molestation, rape, and domestic violence. So yes, I am out of control! I hate people - they are all idiots. But ...

Desperately Seeking Help  Not rated yet
I am a married woman with young children. Myself & my husband are having difficulties in our marriage, anywhere from finances to intimacy.

Our problems,...

Pushed To The limit  Not rated yet
Well, when I was in school I was a decent student and hardly got in trouble besides the regular tardy. When I first came to this new school I didn't really ...

Losing The One I Love Because Of My Anger  Not rated yet
My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. We are still talking, but every time we do I get mad and scream and yell at her until she doesn't want ...

I Am A Bad Mother  Not rated yet
Hi. I have two kids, 6 and 2 years old. I always get very frustrated when correcting my 1st kid who is 6. When she is not doing her homework properly, I ...

Life After Having A Baby  Not rated yet
Dr. DeFoore,

I was with my boyfriend for about 1 1/2 years and had a child with him. My child is 1 1/2 years old right now. My boyfriend and I were ...

Imaginary Enemies  Not rated yet
Hello all!

I am in desperate need for answers. I have an issue where I tend to make up things in my mind to get angry about. For instance I will imagine ...

Over Aggressive Blonde  Not rated yet
Dr, Here is my story. I am 39 years old and counting--I'll be 40 in a month. I'm an out of work mother and wife, who moved to a new state for a better,...

Livid Over Little Unimportant Things-Please Help Me  Not rated yet
Hi, I am 40 years old and have three children. My oldest, 24, is living nearby, and my 3 year old son and my 2 year old daughter are the greatest gifts ...

I'm Ruining My Relationships With Myself And Others  Not rated yet
I'm a 19 year old girl, and anger management was the last thing I ever thought I would need. But it's come down to it, and this is the only other option ...

Anger Taking Over My Life  Not rated yet
I get angry at almost everything except my kids. I don't get violent. I get road rage, angry when people are late, angry at the system, angry with the ...

Holding It All In  Not rated yet
My name is Julee. I'm 40 yrs old. I'm married for the 3rd time, with four kids. They are age 21, 18, 12, and 3.

I feel like I'm alone. I'm told by ...

I Love My Daughter But Can't Seem To Show It  Not rated yet
I am writing because I have 3 kids--a 1 year old, a 2 year old and a 6 year old. When my oldest was the only child everything was perfect. I would take ...

By A Bottle  Not rated yet
This Sunday was supposed to be a good day for my family and me. Kind of a house warming, kind of a farewell party. We went out, bought horse shoes, steak,...

Being Controlled By Anger  Not rated yet
Well where do I begin? I am a 30 year old woman who is almost always enraged. Everything seems to make me so mad. Today I got so angry I was screaming ...

Anger, Fear, And Self Loathing  Not rated yet
Hi, I am not sure how to start this out, however I can tell you I have plenty to be angry about from childhood on through today. None the less I don't ...

I Become Enraged When I've Been Wronged  Not rated yet
I have recently (within the last year) been diagnosed as having borderline personality disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, severe and chronic depression ...

My 20 Year Old Son Is Very Disrespectful  Not rated yet
My son is 20 years old. He left a prestigious college in his 5th semester and came home.

He gets angry easily, breaks things and tears his clothes,...

How Much Anger Is Normal?  Not rated yet
I would like some advice on how much anger is normal in a family relationship. My daughter who is now 14 is what I feel a normal teenager, i.e. messy room,...

How Anger Hurts My Family  Not rated yet
Everyone in my house has anger issues. My 6-year old has started displaying some alarming anger issues lately and I am just heart-broken. He is very ...

One Thing After Another  Not rated yet
It seems like everything goes wrong at once. I know that I am not alone, but what the hell. First I worked very hard at my job doing everything asked of ...

My Anger Is Out Of Control  Not rated yet
So, here is my problem: I have extreme "blind rage". I fly into these fits that I can't even control and often black out from being so angry. I usually ...

My Life  Not rated yet
Where to start? I guess I have always been messed up. Born in 1968 to parents who loved me but did not cherish me, I guess is where I will start.

My ...

My Anger Problems  Not rated yet
Okay, I don't know where to start. Me and my girlfriend have been together six years. I was let go by the military about six months ago.

So for the ...

I Get Angry All The Time  Not rated yet
Hi. Well I don't know what to say. I wasn't like this until a year ago. I use to let things roll off my back, but now it ain't happening.

I threw a ...

I Get Angry At Every Small Thing  Not rated yet
I find ways to get angry at every single thing in my life! Even when I am not winning on a silly Ipod game, I start hitting myself and I find the urge ...

The Devastating Power Of Neglect  Not rated yet
When I was a child my parents and my siblings and I used to fly to Florida for vacations. My father worked for a large commercial air lines, so we could ...

Thank You  Not rated yet
I was cleaning out my inbox and I accidentally deleted your response to my story titled "School" about my emotional conflicts related to high school. I ...

I Fight With My Girlfriend  Not rated yet
I know I have slight anger always. But it is well shown in my relationship with my girlfriend. We are in a long distance relationship. Usually I will be ...

Hitting My Husband  Not rated yet
I'm a nervous person from a nervous family. I take medication for anxiety. My husband was pushing my buttons last night in the car driving home. He wasn'...

My Warrior Spirit Rescued My Inner Child  Not rated yet
When I was a baby, my mother used to pick me up and dig her fingers into my kidneys specifically to hurt me. It was not just pain, it was torture of the ...