This is where you will learn about healthy anger, and that the greatest revenge is a happy life!
By the way, do you have a story about how getting revenge is not such a great idea? Tell your story here, and others can read, benefit and respond.
You're not bad for wanting revenge--everybody has those feelings.
The idea is to be smart and take good care of yourself, instead of making things worse by going into the "attack mode."
I know you have been hurt, or you wouldn't be here. Wanting revenge is a natural response to this--it's called anger, and everybody has it. We all know that feeling of satisfaction when the "bad guy gets what's coming to them" in the movie, in the book or in everyday life. These are totally normal mental and emotional responses. The question is, do you want to make things better, or are you going to make things worse by getting revenge? There is even a philosophy that says when you hurt others you are hurting yourself. Whether you believe that or not, it is clear that getting revenge will ultimately and eventually hurt you.
Here's how it works, from my perspective as a counselor with 37 years of experience:

Okay, so now let's look at some of those healthy alternatives we've been talking about.

Okay, that should give you lots of healthy alternatives to getting revenge and risking harm to you and others. The rest is up to you. As you might have gathered, this site is all about taking responsibility. When you feel like a victim, you feel powerless. The best way to regain your power is to claim responsibility for your own emotions, your injuries and your actions. With that responsibility comes freedom, which is what I think we all want the most anyway.
And remember, you are your own best anger management resource!
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I Am A Road Rage Victim Wanting Revenge
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Old Man
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Co-op Mom
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Wanting Revenge At My Husband's Sister
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First of all, the big no-no. I fell for my boss--even agreeing to leave my job so we could continue the relationship and let it develop further. I had...
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I Have Been Betrayed Twice And My Valuables Have Been Stolen
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Losing Trust In My Husband And Thinking About Getting Revenge
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Target of a Sociopathic Personal Trainer
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I Can't Get Over My Anger From My Husband's Long Term Affair
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My husband worked with a lady in our business. I quit my job to join him in our venture together. Shortly after I started I found out and watched my husband...
It All Can't Be My Fault
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Too Close For Comfort
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The Boyfriend's Ex
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Trapped Savage Beast
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Betrayed!
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I was known to be a very happy-go-lucky person. I had a constant smile on my face. My life was not perfect but worth living, until some once-upon-a-time...
Getting Even After Thirty Four Years Of Workplace Bullying
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Betrayal And Anger
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I wanted to meet a composer who is working for my parents on an Opera project. He had become Facebook friends with me for about a year. We never interacted....
Crushed By A Friend With No Explanation
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I gradually became friends with a neighbor who lost her husband. I would help with yard work and be there whenever she asked. About a year ago she had...
Man-hating College Instructor
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I go to school at a local community college and I have an online class about Health and Wellness. This instructor that is instructing the class always...
My Portion Of The Dinner Bill
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I Stuck By Him For All Those Years And He Betrayed Me
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Unloving My Ex And It Feels Like Revenge
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My husband had an affair after 19 years of marriage, just after my Dad passed away. I forgave him and we stayed together, moved our family (3 children)...
My Evening At School
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Hello, my name is Kev. I'm 32 years old and I'm currently in a Masters program. I'm actually a first semester student in seminary. I have always had an...
Helping A Neighbor Backfired Into Harrassment Situation
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A few years ago I helped a friend next door who was in an abusive relationship and she wanted to get out of it. She used to come to my house and use my...
The Classic "Psycho" Ex-Girlfriend
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I knew it was a bad idea to continue to be intimate with my ex-boyfriend shortly after we broke up. We both knew it would not end well, yet we didn't care....
Facebook Revenge
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I am recently separated. My ex-husband and I are trying to be on friendly terms. However, jealousy has reared its ugly head. He is still living in the...
Why Have I Allowed Myself To Be A Victim So Long?
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I can't believe it but here I am wishing a lot of ill will on my soon to be ex. I should have left him many years ago, after all we met online...just because...
Picking Fights
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First of all thanks for your advice on revenge, it has definitely helped me come to terms with my inner protector. Right now I am having a revenge issue...
Taken Advantage Of
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9 years ago my in-laws made an offer to my wife and me that if we would pay to build them a small house, we would inherit that house plus the old 2 story...
I Got Revenge And Now I Want It Again
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I had a boyfriend that I verbally abused. I called him a coward and other names because he avoided dealing with differences in our relationship. Angry...
Please Help Me
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I sometimes just lash out in anger and I want to hurt others any way I possibly can. It frightens me for it seems to be getting worse. I'm afraid one day...
Angry Angry Angry
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My husband has ADD and needs a lot of routines and sleep. If he gets angry he will yell and call me names. I do not put up with it at all and I want to...
Out To Get Me
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I constantly feel that everyone is really out to get me, not necessarily in the attacking manner, but in a sense where they don't want to see me content....
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