Angry Outbursts Over Money

by April
(Alabama )

My husband is the best man I’ve ever known. I love him and only him. He’s a retired Army pilot but still flying. We have been married almost 19 years. I was married only 1x before my husband now. My previous marriage was to Satan.

My current husband has never been married and no children of his own. I have 2 daughters that he’s raised and has given the absolute royal upbringing. I’m not perfect. But, I am a wonderful wife- I’m faithful, loyal, committed, and madly in love with my husband as if we married today. Like I said I’m not perfect. I come from a background that no one can believe and there’s no movie horrific enough to touch my upbringing.

I’m a nurse. When we married he left it up to me if I worked or stayed home. With all of his deployments he felt better with me staying home if that’s what I wanted and I did stay home. So, I’m also a very spoiled wife. We are beyond blessed. I always overdo for those I love. I always spend more money than I should. Part of my problem is that I know we’re financially stable even after we’re gone from this earth. However, I apparently went overboard for nurses week as well and I told him.

That’s when he got angry verbally and loud in front of our pregnant daughter and granddaughter. She’s 4. I deserve for him to be upset with me but not in front of anyone else. This is the issue he has. And whenever he has an angry outburst there’s name calling.

Today for instance, my daughter called me worried because my new 5 month old Shih tzu somehow jumped up into our master bath/hot tub. No water in it it’s a master tub but also can be a hot tub. So I rushed home and he was fine thank goodness. Also, my daughter and I realized my puppy used the training pads so we were excited. Our daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter live with us until their house is finished being built. In our excitement and finding out my hubby was working OT I left to go get dinner really quick. Came back and we ate.

Hubby came home before I could clean our bathroom. That’s when this occurred and also when I told him about how much I spent on my 2 nurse, which I do every year. Granted I know we are saving for our 20th anniversary celebration next year. Now, like I said my husband is truly a wonderful man, except when it comes to money. I will change my self tonight. But his outburst may have cost me my daughter and granddaughter. What do I do?