Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
The most important thing to know about child anger management, if you don't already know it, is that your child's anger is a healthy, natural emotion. When children have anger problems, there is always a very good reason.
They are not "bad" because of their anger. The key is to find the underlying causes of their anger and resolve those issues.
And that's exactly what you're going to do while you're here!
Many parents want to find out what causes their children anger management problems. If you're willing to make the changes you need to make in your own thoughts and feelings, you can teach your child that they are their own best anger management resource.
Do you have a story or question to share? We'd love to hear from you, and you might get some free counseling as a result.
Here are three things you must do in order to help with anger management for children:
1. Have empathy for the child--once you find out why the child is angry, you will have a better understanding of their viewpoint, and you'll be able to have empathy for them. Empathy is absolutely necessary if you're going to provide child anger management for child stress problems!
2. Take responsibility for your own anger in the child anger management process. As a mom, dad, teacher or caregiver, you are very powerful in this child's life, whether you realize it or not! To provide good child anger management, you have to look at what you're bringing to the table. Are you angry? That doesn't mean you're a bad person. You wouldn't be reading this if you didn't want to help, so let's make sure that happens, so that you're not one of those angry parents!
3. Give the child the knowledge and skills they need to understand, manage and express--not only their anger, but all of their emotions! Keep in mind that if you haven't done 1. and 2., you won't succeed with this child anger management strategy!
Learn about handling temper tantrums, how to stop bullying and last but not least, how to understand and prevent school violence.
Does your child have ADD or ADHD? Find out how you can help! Your response as a parent makes all the difference in how this diagnosis affects your son or daughter and which ADD treatment you choose.
In some cases, the child may need to release anger physically. You can accomplish this in a number of ways:
Learn more about helping young children deal with anger.
You know what? You're a champion! You are a champion because you came here to help a child with anger management. Follow the parenting skills information and guidelines you find here, and you might just keep a child from "going bad."
And you might even save someone else's life--as in the case of child anger management actually moving into the area of school violence.
I encourage you to keep up the good work, and don't let anything stop you in your efforts to help the children with child anger management issues in your life!
Child Behavior Problem--Learn about multiple approaches to understanding and treating child behavior problems. some of which parents can implement on their own.
Defiant Children--understand and deal with this problem in your family, your school or community. Defiant children are not bad, and you can definitely help.
Oppositional Defiant Disorder--this is the diagnosis kids get when they are defiant on a consistent ongoing basis. Find out what you can do to bring out the good child or teenager!
Healing For The Angry Mother--learn how this gets started, and how you can change it. No mother wants to be angry, and it can happen to good folks. But it doesn't have to be that way.
Parenting Tips--Get specific guidance and pointers about how to work with angry and ADHD kids, in your home or your school. You'll learn these aren't bad kids, and you can help to bring out the best in them.
Stress Management Strategies--Sometimes managing stress can be the first step to better child anger management. If you're stressed out as a parent, you'll have a hard time being the good parent you want to be.
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