Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
You want parenting skills because you're frustrated about your angry child. You might even feel helpless and lost about what to do next!
You're also smart enough to know that you are responsible for your child, and you're ready to learn how to change. You love your children, and want only the best for them, and that's why you're here and reading this.
Here are some helpful parenting tips to get you started right now:
1) Your child has good reasons for her/his anger--and you can find out what that is and solve the problem.
2) You have a lot more power in the situation than you might think--and that power is all based in love.
3) Good parenting skills are always based in love. Without the foundation of love, the best parenting in the world will not work.
Moms and Dads of angry children need a lot of good parenting tips, and that's what you'll find here, and on other pages on this site. Discover how you can become a positive parenting ally to your child, with unconditional parenting.
The right parenting skills will not work at all or for very long, without these ingredients. Think about these points, and make sure you are clear and positive about them before trying to implement any of the skills described below.
Okay, now that you have reached some level of comfort or even mastery of these points, it's time to take a look at one more very important piece--your personal history.
Many parents fall into one of these traps--take a look and see if any of these fits you:
Watch this video for a great example of positive parenting, and how it can empower a child to follow his dreams.
The good person inside you is your best resource for good parenting. Look at these recommendations, think about them, and use the ones that feel right to you.
While I'm thinking of it, if your children are adolescents, you also need to learn about parenting teenagers.
None of these parenting skills will work unless there is a container of love in your parent child relationship with the angry child. So, use these with that understanding, and always, always use the above three positive, rapport-building parenting skills along the way. You want your child to become their own best anger management resource.
Here we go:
Oh...by the way, you really need to know about neglect and your child's basic needs! One of the reasons we get angry children is by neglecting their basic needs. Neglect is a form of silent abuse that can be devastating to a child. Learn more parenting skills at AllPsych.com.
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