The Angry Girl
What To Do Even It's You That's Angry

An angry girl has very good reasons for being angry, even if nobody knows what they are. We just have to figure out what those reasons are, to get the problem solved, once and for all.

I know a girl with anger issues can also be a big problem for everyone in her life. So we're going to look at some good solutions to this problem right here.

One thing is for certain...angry kids are not bad kids. Anyone can have an anger problem, and it can happen to the best of us.

If you're the angry girl, skip directly to this part of this web page.

You'll come away from this page more optimistic about yourself and the people in your life, if it is successful in its purpose.

How To Understand And Help The Angry Girl

Whether you're a parent, a teacher or a friend, you're here because you care about a girl who is angry. Good for you, for caring enough to want to learn what to do, and for being willing to learn.

The first thing to understand is that no matter how tough, mean or strong she might seem, I guarantee you that underneath all of that she is wounded and afraid. An angry child or adolescent girl is feeling threatened, or has been abused, abondoned or neglected in some way, or they wouldn't be showing all of that anger.

Now let's look at how you can help:

Anger In Teens

• Take good care of yourself. You're not doing her any favors by letting her abuse you. If you're not healthy, and taking care of yourself, then don't even try to help anybody else who is angry.


• Show an interest in what she likes, loves or feels passionate about. I know that can be hard sometimes, but it's extremely important.


• Practice good nonverbal communication skills. If your body language isn't matching your words, you'll never get to square one. You've got to say what you mean and mean what you say.


• Be positive, but in a way that she can relate to. In other words, don't try to confront or change an angry girl. Look for things to support about her, and ways to connect.


• As a parent, you may have to practice tough love with your angry girl. You can't let her run over you, or intimidate you with her anger. If you're a teacher, or a victim to a girl bully, learn more about how to deal with how to deal with bullying here.

The whole idea here is that you are responsible, and as adults, we are almost never truly victims. We have choices, and the choices we make are essential to the quality of life create.

Take responsibility, so that you can have the freedom to choose the quality and kind of life you want for yourself.

It's also a really good idea to learn about adolescent rites of passage. This will allow you to create a positive ceremony to honor the teens in your life as they transition from childhood to adulthood.

When you look at the things that are bothering an angry girl, you will often find that she's not feeling heard, honored or understood. And she's looking for an identity. When it's done right, a rites of passage ceremony can be very helpful to a young person trying to establish a healthy identity for herself.

Are You Tired Of Being The Angry Girl?

It's really not much fun being angry all of the time, is it? Well, you don't have to be.

You've probably established an identity around being angry, but that's not who you really are. You're a good person, and you would like to get along with other people if you could.

Okay, here are some things you can do to get lined up with who you really are:

• Explore the heart and soul of your own story. You're the only one who knows what it's really been like for you. Here are some guidelines for exploring your story.


• Give your anger a healthy, safe place to go. Your anger is not bad, you just don't want it causing you problems. Use this anger journaling process on a regular basis, and you'll start to understand your anger and where it comes from, and you'll be calmer as a result.


• Use these guided imagery techniques to heal and deal with your past emotional trauma. This cools the fire beneath your anger, and it will help you feel a whole lot happier too--remember, you're more than just an angry girl.


• Practice these anger management techniques. Just pick the ones that works best for you, and do them over and over, and you'll get some good results.


• Start "rehearsing" how you want to be as you approach a challenging situation where you've gotten mad in the past. These two imagery exercises will help you practice in your mind exactly how you want to feel and act, and greatly increase the chance of being who and how you really want to be.

There are steps you can take to begin creating your own reality, the way you want it--as long as it's healthy. Try these exercises, and I think you'll get some good results creating more of the kind of life and experiences you want in your good heart.

Remember, you are your own best anger management resource.