GOODFINDING ebook Now On Sale for $.99!
Dealing With Jealousy
By Raising Your Self Esteem
Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
Dealing with jealousy can be one of the most frustrating challenges you will ever face. That's because you are looking in the wrong direction! You think your jealousy is about your partner or spouse--and I totally get that, but it's actually about you.
The thing is, you've probably noticed that you just can't change other people! But the jealousy is inside you, and you have total freedom and responsibility for anything going on inside you.
Jealousy is sometimes called "the green eyed monster," and that "monster" lives in the head of the jealous person. You may have very good reasons for being jealous, but our focus here is on what it's doing to you.
You can start overcoming jealousy right now, by learning to love and value yourself more. Learn to focus on your positive qualities to overcome jealousy today!
How Did It Get Like This?
Very good question--by the way, do you have other questions or stories about jealousy? Share them here.
Okay, here's how the problem starts:
- Your partner's behavior starts to worry you. S/he seems distracted, not interested in you, and maybe flirtatious with others. Things are just not the same as they were.
- You start to suspect an affair, or at least an emotional affair. The point being that your partner seems more interested in someone else than they are in you.
- Your mind starts to play out different scenarios, and you get emotional--afraid, angry and extremely upset.
- You confront your partner, and they deny everything.
- Nothing changes, and you just feel worse and worse. You're dealing with jealousy and all of the bad feelings that go with it.
That's why you're here. You are tired of the jealousy, and you want to find a way out of those miserable feelings. Now let's move on to some solutions to this problem.
How Does Self Esteem Help In Dealing With Jealousy?
It all boils down to this...you learn to create a wonderful life for yourself, so that your focus on your partner moves into the background.
When you're feeling jealous, you have lost your focus on what matters most, which is your own happiness and personal well being. Don't get caught in the thinking that you'll be okay when your partner starts to act right!
Here are some steps you can take:
- Learn to love yourself. People with jealousy problems usually love the other person more than him/herself.
- Build your self esteem until the feelings of jealousy fade away.
- If you're dealing with jealousy by getting more and more angry, consider an online anger management class. You work at your own pace, and they offer 8, 12, 16 and 26 hour programs to suit your needs. (Please note: we are an affiliate for this course provider, and we receive commissions on all sales made from this site.)
- Understand relationship boundaries and the importance of taking responsibility for yourself, your role in the relationship, and the relationship itself.
- Sometimes you can overcome jealousy problems by healing your emotional wounds from childhood. Our Nurturing Your Inner Child audio program is specifically designed to do just that.
This will get you started on your journey of dealing with jealousy. All of these techniques work, but only if you use them, and keep using them.
You can do this! Believe in yourself.
NURTURING YOUR INNER CHILD
Affirmations & Visualizations For Self Love & Healing
Get this revised and updated version of Dr. DeFoore's classic audiobook! Using a combination of visualization and affirmations, he will guide you on a journey of emotional healing that will lead to greater self esteem and self love. Don't miss this opportunity to connect with the tremendous value of your true, original nature and begin your journey to a joyful, fulfilling life.
Have A Story About Jealousy?
Do you have a story or question about jealousy? Tell us now!
What Other Visitors Have Said
Click below to see contributions from other visitors to this page...
I'm Driving My Girlfriend Crazy With My Jealousy And Anger 
I am 19 years old and am in my second semester of my first year of college. I am also in a committed relationship that started my junior year of high …
My Husband Had An Emotional Affair With Both His PA'S Over Two Years!
My husband has cheated on me emotionally for the past two years. First with one PA for six months. He was getting far too close to her by the way he spoke …
Jealousy, Control, Sibling Rivalry And Ghosts Of The Past
Ever since I could remember as a small child, my younger brother has been the primary focus of the family...(i.e. the prince of the house). It seemed as …
Breaking It Off
Well, this isn't for me, but I think my friend is too scared to even think about this. First thing I'm going to say is that I love the girl that I'm trying …
I Can't Let Things Go Not rated yet
I'm 22 and in a serious relationship with my boyfriend. I feel like ever since I met him I've had a lot of mixed emotions from anger jealousy happiness …
Risking To Lose The Love Of My Life Not rated yet
It's the same with my aggression--I would never harm her in that way. I just can't control my anger.
I get jealous over the littlest things. I love …
Lack Of Trust Not rated yet
My boyfriend and I grew up in neighboring towns but didn't meet until we were about 30. He was visiting back home, as he lives in another country working …
Together 5 Years And Unfaithful Not rated yet
I have been in a relationship with a man for 5yrs. We have known each other for over 13 years. We started our relationship as an affair.
Obviously, …
Troubled Relationship Not rated yet
I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, but we have had many rough patches the most recently being in the past month. We constantly fight and I am …
Is This Anger Or Jealousy Or What? Not rated yet
Hello, I am a 28 year old female and am wondering if I have anger issues. I have been with my boyfriend off and on for about 5 years and whenever we …
Wow, Where Do I Begin? Not rated yet
I am a 49 year old woman with two beautiful almost adult children. I find myself very jealous with my boyfriend, who tells me he loves me very much. …
Angry And Jealous Of My Sister Not rated yet
Last night me and my sister got into this huge fight because of something stupid. I think it was over how I called her a slut earlier, and then she said …
Confused About Anger Disorder And Delusional Jealousy Disorder Not rated yet
Can an anger disorder be associated with a delusional jealousy disorder but also occur at another time such as having a minor dispute? I'm very confused …
- Home
- Marriage Problems
- Dealing With Jealousy
We receive commissions on Amazon sales on this website.
Subscribe To The Newsletter
And Get A Free Ebook!
Recent Articles
-
Am I Somehow Deserving Of The Abuse?
Oct 16, 23 08:44 AM
Dear Dr. DeFoore, I have been married for over 6 years and my relationship has become unrecognizable and full of resentment and hatred. Over the last -
The War In My Mind Or My Reality?
Jul 13, 23 09:08 AM
I share my short story of endurance with triggers of my past military wounds to help heal myself and others. To inspire you to believe in yourself and -
Completely Confused By 20 Year Old Son's Behavior
Jul 06, 22 08:59 AM
My son is 20 years old. He is extremely intelligent. He excelled in school and was at the top of his high school senior class. He was accepted into every
New! Comments
Have your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below.