Five Steps To Overcoming Jealousy While Building Self-esteem & Self Love
Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
Overcoming jealousy can be one of the most difficult challenges you will face--but you can do it! And I will show you how. Dealing with jealousy is mostly a matter of shifting your focus.
To overcome jealousy, you have to become more interested in yourself than your partner.
All you have to do is shift your attention from your partner to you--and then, you need to feel good about you!
And you have every reason to feel good about you, because you're a good person with a good heart--that's why you're here!
I know that loving yourself is one of the most challenging things you can do, but you can do it--and we can help you. Overcoming jealousy is within your reach.
What Are The Benefits Of Overcoming Jealousy?
You already know that jealousy makes you miserable. But when you overcome jealousy the way I'm going to describe it here, you will also be much happier and feel much better about yourself.
Jealousy is simply a matter of obsessing over your partner instead of focusing on your main job--becoming the best and happiest person you can be!
Here are your key points for dealing with jealousy:
Jealousy is all about focusing too much on the other person and not enough on your own thoughts, actions and feelings
Here is a self-statement I want you to consider: "I am a good person, and if my partner is smart enough to be faithful and loyal to me, then they will get to continue being with me. If my partner can't figure out that I am valuable and worthy of loyalty, then they won't have the pleasure of my company much longer."
Suspicion is a luxury you can't afford. It's just too expensive. It will rob you of sleep, energy and ultimately it can make you crazy. You just can't afford it. Overcoming jealousy requires that you put suspicion on a ship and float it out into eternity, never to return.
The happier you are, the more fun you're having, and the better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be for you to overcome jealousy.
You will be so much happier when you're no longer haunted by the green-eyed monster, and focusing on creating a good life for yourself. You will become your own best anger management resource.
What Are The Five Steps To Overcoming Jealousy?
Here you go...just follow these steps, and you'll be on the road to feeling great about yourself, no longer worried about what your partner may or may not be doing.
Take a look at your own personal history, and figure out what is causing your strong feelings of jealousy. Do the "Trauma Writing" exercises on this page, and that will show you the underlying patterns causing your jealousy.
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Make up your mind that you will have a great relationship with someone who is totally faithful and in love with you. It may be your current partner, or it may be someone else. It doesn't matter--your job is just to focus on what you want and what you're determined to have.
You can do this. Follow these steps in total detail, and you will be able to overcome jealousy and create a healthy, good life for yourself.
What If Your Partner Is Really Cheating?
Overcoming jealousy is impossible if your partner is really cheating, flirting or just messing with you to make you jealous.
The bottom line here is that if you love yourself, feel good about yourself and focus on creating a good life for yourself, you will see more clearly, and you're much more likely to see the infidelity. In other words, apply the techniques I'm describing here, and it will help you no matter what.
If you end up breaking up, then wouldn't you rather feel good about yourself when you do? You can't lose with this approach! Learn more about overcoming jealousy.
Remember-- you are worthy of respect and loyalty. Don't accept anything less!
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