Free Anger Management Activities

Did you know that just writing about what is going on in your life will help you? It's true! Dr. James Pennebaker from the University of Texas in Austin has found that writing about upsetting or traumatic experiences can be very helpful and even healing.

Even if you just write your story, and nobody responds--you still get benefit. Bonus! The free anger management activities you will find on this site just might include some free counseling from Dr. William DeFoore, who has over 35 years of experience in helping people just like you stop the anger once and FOR ALL!

By the way, if you're looking for other types of anger management activities, just click here. This site has everything you need!

Journaling, which is simply writing what you are angry or worried about, has tremendous benefits. Here are a few:

• You are "getting it out." That's right--when you put it down on paper (or computer), it's no longer rattling around all by itself in your head, and that's a good thing.



• When you write or talk about difficult feelings, memories and experiences, you are using words and rational thought to describe an emotional, non-rational experience. This application of logic to emotional experience helps you to sort things out, and often puts your mind to rest in some very healing ways.
• Dr. Pennebaker's research (reported in his book "Opening Up: The Healing Power Of Expressing Emotions") has shown that writing about traumatic memories reduces the number of medical visits among those who do so. So, of all of the anger management activities out there, this one may offer the most overall health benefits with the least amount of effort and expense.
• An article in Science Daily magazine (April 13, 1999) entitled, "Writing Your Feelings: Good Medicine For Chronic Conditions" shows that Asthma and Arthritis patients who wrote about their feelings about stressful events showed improvement in their conditions.

Even though storytelling and writing about your feelings are not what you would usually consider as anger management activities, I assure you they are.

All you have to do is go to this page and choose a category for your story or question. Then your contribution will become a web page, that you and your friends and family can visit, and other visitors can read and benefit from.

Many people have helped and been helped in this way!

Here are some contributions and comments from visitors who have told their story, asked their questions and received the help they needed:

• "I realize how important it is to express. Let me tell you frankly that I've never shared my issues like this before and I feel pretty light now." Mrs. LL, Tamilnadu, India
• "Well I have stopped drinking...almost 45 days sober. I am proud of myself. I just want to be a much better person, wife and mother." Tammy Otis, Oshawa Ontario Canada
• "Your site and blog on anger management has definitely helped me at least figure out my anger issues and work on them. I still have my anger outbursts but I am preparing myself every day to tone the effects down further." A Mother

Please click on the above links to read these people's stories. Writing your stories and asking your questions are anger management activities that will help you heal and become the person you want to be.

This is where you explore the "wiring" behind your "hot buttons." All you have to do is write about your memories of being hurt, abandoned, violated, neglected or abused in any way for periods of 15 minutes at a time, until you start feeling some relief.

Here is what I recommend:

1. Make a list of all of the times you can remember being hurt, betrayed, neglected, abandoned or abused.
2. Take each event, one by one, and "tell the story," keeping in mind that no one has to read this but you. The benefit is in the brain processes you activate in the writing process.
3. Write about everything you felt, perceived, thought and experienced.
4. Focus on yourself, and don't get caught up in analyzing, explaining or excusing the actions of others. This is for you, and nobody else.
5. Write for 15 minutes (minimum) at a time, until you feel you've told the whole story, then move on to the next one.

When you're done, you may or may not want to share any of this with a trusted friend, confidant or counselor. You will know what you need to do when you get to that point. Chances are you will just feel better from these easy, do-it-yourself anger management activities!

Jouraling directly from your anger is one of the best anger management activities of all. Here's how it works:

• Let your anger speak uninterrupted. That is, don't be reasonable, rational or "nice" during this process, or you won't really be getting the anger out.
• The purpose is to honor your anger as a valid emotion designed to protect you, while claiming authority over it by speaking consciously, intentionally from it.
• Usually when your anger "speaks" it's because you've lost control, and it is destructive. This type of activity puts you in control, where you are expressing all of those angry feelings in a healthy, therapeutic process where nobody gets hurt.



• Keep this writing in a separate journal from other writing. It's a kind of "dumping ground" for these negative emotions.
• Write about all of your frustrations, fears, pains, sorrows and anger here. All of the things you "just can't stand," and that really "push your buttons."
• The trick for this particular one of the anger management activities is to keep writing until you a) start to repeat yourself, b) can't think of anything else to say, or c) feel a sense of release and/or relief.
• Close the journal, and go straight to the next journaling exercise described below.

Last but not least among these anger management activities, is the practice of Goodfinding. This is best done through a type of positive journaling, which is extremely beneficial for shifting from anger, frustration and worry into a better mood and attitude.

Every day, no matter what, write in your journal in these three ways:

• Gratitude for the things in your past: Write about all that you can think of that you are grateful for. Think of times when you've been very happy, people who have loved you, and wonderful places you've been. Focus on how grateful you are for the good times with friends, the concerts, art and beauty you have seen.



• Appreciation for the things in your present: Write about all that you appreciate about right now. Appreciate your health--all the organs and functions that are working just fine, your talents and abilities. Appreciate your possessions, your home, your friends and family.
• Optimism about your future: Write about what you look forward to. Think of all of the good things that are possible in your future, and think about how you would feel if they all happened. Use your imagination to think of good things coming your way. Keep your mind at least partly open to these imagined wonders becoming real.

Keep up these anger management activities for the rest of your life--but only if you want to be happy and realize your dreams.

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