Whether you're an employer, employee or both, you need to understand this problem. And you need to have solutions that work, long term.
There are causes of workplace anger, and it's not just "bad people." It's too easy to place blame. Real change comes when everybody takes responsibility.
Most people don't plan to get angry at work, so that tells us it's an unconscious process. You're going to learn some things right here that will help you understand this problem and what to do about it.
Nobody wants to go to work and deal with angry people all day, but a lot of you are faced with exactly that situation.
Fortunately, there are solutions, but first let's look at how anger in the workplace starts:
Of course, there's also the occasional situation where someone joins the company, or gets promoted, who has a lot of anger issues. However, even then, these anger issues are subconsciously driven by past unresolved issues.
Other things that can cause anger in the workplace are bad decisions by management, dictatorial bosses, sexual harassment, discrimination and favoritism. In each of these instances, however, the anger that shows up will only be an extreme problem if the angry individual has unresolved issues from the past.
As the drama heats up, you will find again and again that a familiar pattern starts to develop. Somebody's the "bad guy," others are the "victims," and there will always be some sort of "rescuer" that shows up. Let the "games begin."
This diagram will show you how the "game" works. Sometimes referred to as the Karpman Drama Triangle, this shows the process that leads to tremendous problems in homes, workplaces and even among nations.
It's not hard to see how this can lead to anger in the workplace. Let's look a little closer at how the drama unfolds:
This gives you a good overview of how anger in the workplace can develop and grow over time. Now let's look at how a workplace can become healthy.
This is a big subject, and there are no easy answers or quick fixes.
However, there is a powerful tool that I have used in some of my business consulting work, that works very well for transforming unhealthy emotions into healthy, productive action.
Here's how it works (contact me if you want consultation on how to implement this in your workplace):
Of course, this page is not enough to help you actually create and implement the programs you need to deal with anger in the workplace.
It will, however, help you understand how this change could actually be made if you (including corporate leadership) choose to implement it.
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