Help Me With My Anger At Work
I hate the fact that I have moments and outbursts of anger - when overall I am a very positive person and an influential leader.
I feel like I regress to "child-like" actions if I don't get my way, or feel like someone is flexing their "superiority muscle" at work.
I hate it and want to fly into a rage, even when I go offsite and take "time-out" or time away to cool down.
What can I do to get over anger getting the best of me? I know it's ok to not agree with things all the time, but it should not affect me the way it does!Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. I respect the clarity and responsibility in what you wrote. I think you're a good candidate for benefitting from the exercises you will find described on this FAQ page
. Follow all of the instructions completely, and I think you'll get the results you're looking for.
There are good reasons for your anger, and when you find what those are (through the exercises), you will start to heal. Then each of the other exercises will further your healing, until you find yourself much better able to process your emotions and deal with your anger.
Believe in yourself and the goodness of your heart.
My very best to you,
Betrayal By My Boss
I have been reporting to a manager for 4 years. The manager was promoted to a senior position 6 months ago. After his promotion, he persuaded me to report to one of my colleagues.
I refused to change on the reporting line. He kept asking me for few times and didn't invite me to his management meeting. I then told him I wanted to quit in March.
I shall be able to leave the company in April. He then asked me to stay until I help him to finish all planning and one of the big projects of the year till mid July. I promised him to stay and help him a bit.
Today, I just realized that he has changed me and my team to my colleagues without prior notification or discussion. I'm very angry and feel betrayed by my boss. Shall I leave immediately or finish my project until July?
My sense told me I shall leave but I have two staff working for me. I may need to take care of their interest. What shall I do?
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. I can tell these transitions have been very challenging for you, and that your feelings are strong. It's good that you're taking action to honor what you feel is right for you.
No one can tell you the best thing to do, re. when to quit. You are the best person to make that decision. You've been there, you know the people and the environment, and your responsibilities.
The following page on relationships might help: quotes on relationships
Trust yourself. Find a calm, quiet place inside, and you'll know the best choice for you.
My very best to you,