Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
Do you, your spouse, your child or co-worker have an anger disorder? This is where you can find out for sure, and how to help and be helped. You can even get some help right here on this page, by telling your story for the benefit of others.
If there is an emotional disorder in your life, whether it's you or somebody else, then it's causing you stress in many ways and at a lot of levels.
One of the best things you can do to lower your stess right now is to write about what you're feeling, thinking and going through.
Tell your story now, and if chosen, your contribution will be a page on this site--but you will benefit just by writing it down.
You get angry on a fairly regular basis, whether it's once a day, weekly, monthly or even less frequently than that. You know, and everybody around you knows, that you're going to have an anger outburst once in a while. when you have these outbursts, what you do is some or all of these:
You never get angry. I know, you think this is success and not an anger disorder! However, your body doesn't agree. The fact that you don't explode only means you're getting ready to implode which is a kind of internal explosion. If you just sit on your anger and never express it in any way, you are at risk of:
This is an anger disorder that occurs when anger outbursts keep happening over and over again, especially if there is a predictable pattern. When anger is released, some people actually feel a sense of relief, that can become addictive.
Learn all about anger and rage addiction in this article devoted entirely to dealing with the anger disorder of anger addiction and rage addiction. This kind of compulsive-addictive pattern can also result from unresolved grief.
The debilitating factor here is the way that the anger outbursts keep happening, and usually increase in intensity over time. No one has to live like that.
This goes along with anger suppression, because many people just can't seem to hold it all inside. This is also sometimes called "sideways anger," which often comes out unconsciously. This can literally eat away at relationships, creating distance and hostility. Here are some examples of passive-aggressive behavior:
One way to know if you have passive-aggressive behavior is to pay attention to your thoughts about the other person when they're not around. If you're thinking angry, resentful or bitter thoughts about them in their absence, chances are good that you will be passive-aggressive when you are with them.
This is an extreme anger disorder that is actually an official diagnosis in the DSM IV manual. Read our full article on Intermittent Explosive Disorder.
The reason this is considered to be a full blown psychological disorder is that at this level the condition takes on a life of its own, with many complex physical symptoms accompanying the psychological and emotional symptoms. It's like all of the other anger disorders rolled into one.
Learn more about Explosive Anger Disorder (EAD).
In this excellent audio program entitled, Anger: Deal With It Before It Deals With You, you will learn:
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Here's your chance to ask Dr. DeFoore about your situation. It can be about your anger, somebody else's anger, or about grief, road rage, anxiety or depression. Tell your story with as much detail as possible, and he will give you some free counseling.
Feel free to also review our FAQ page (frequently asked questions), to see if your question has already been answered.
Then, if selected, the results will be a web page on this site that will help others! So, there you go--help and be helped! By the way, you can be anonymous if you choose, but if you include your first name, it's better.
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