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Possible I.E.D.

by Claire
(London)

Explosion

Explosion

I have always suppressed anger- as in whenever something has made me angry, I have never been able to show it.

I don't know how to deal with anger. From other people either. It's an uncomfortable emotion for me.

Over the past few years, however, I've had what I can only describe as outbursts of pure rage. Over insignificant things.

For example, this morning a jar dropped in to some water and splashed me and the anger I felt was immense. I threw things and stamped on a box which was on the floor.

It takes a great deal of concentration to control it and if I can then it takes me a lot longer to get over it. I have to sit and do nothing for sometimes half an hour.

If I do act on it, I want to hurt myself (usually because I feel stupid and like whatever event has happen feels like it was due to my stupidity) and I want to smash things and break stuff.

I have never had an outburst in front of my fiance, however I have felt the rage, I've just managed to control my reaction.

The outbursts last less than an hour and I always feel really bad about it afterwards. Does this sound like I.E.D.?


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Jan 12, 2017
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Maybe Another Question Will Serve You Better
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hi Claire

Some professionals might say yes, you're showing symptoms of I.E.D. (Intermittent Explosive Disorder), and some may not. I don't think that is going to help you one way or another, however.

Diagnosis is only useful if it points to an effective treatment.

So, I will make some comments and recommendations which will hopefully be helpful to you.

First of all, I encourage you to consider that there are good reasons for your anger. These emotions do not spontaneously erupt for no good reason. Once you determine the underlying causes of your anger, you will be on the road to solving the problem.

You will find some steps you can take on this page. These exercises will help you to understand, heal and manage your anger.

I realize, Claire, that this may or may not work for you. If you find you need more help, please seek some professional counseling for yourself.

By the way, I offer counseling to clients from around the world, via Skype video conferencing. Please contact us for more information.

Believe in yourself, Claire. You have the resources you need inside.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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