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My husband and I have been together for most of our childhood, and have been married for about two months.
His anger has been going on the 4 years of our relationship, however it just seems like it gets worst over time. I’m not sure whether to take it as a bipolar moment or psychosis.
He can be the happiest guy one moment and in a split second something occurs that he disagrees with or something that bothers him.
He will go from his happy self to 110% super angry. The worst part of it all is that the situation has a simple solution and it always is something that he should not get himself worked up over. It’s that he goes beyond mad, and I don’t how to take it.
I’m so confused. I love him to death. But when he has his moments, I don’t know if I should fear for my life, or if that’s the only way he knows how to deal with things.
I was raised always talking about my problems, and he explodes.
Please give me some advice or suggestions.
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello Maggie, and thanks for telling your story here. I'm sorry you're having so much trouble so early in your marriage. I know that is very troubling.
Regardless of whether your husband is dealing with things in the only way he knows how or not, you need to decide whether you're safe in this relationship. If you are afraid for your life, you need to take action to insure your safety.
I suggest that you read the following pages on relationships, and follow the guidelines you find there:
how to deal with abusive relationships
battered wife syndrome
letting go of a relationship
dealing with marital problems
Your husband will have to choose to get help for himself, it there is any hope for him to get better. You can't help him unless he wants help...and even then, he has to take responsibility and seek out the help himself.
Meanwhile, take steps to create a safe and healthy life for yourself, whatever that entails.
My very best to you,
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