Dealing With A Bad Temper
In Adults, Children And Yourself

Here's your chance to find out what causes a bad temper, and what to do about it. This is no great mystery, the answers are here.

Whether it's you, your child, your spouse or co-worker, you'll get the information and guidance you need right here on this site. You can even tell your story or ask your question, and get professional help!

What Causes A Bad Temper?

One thing's for sure, nobody ever decides they want one. That means that bad tempers develop subconsciously, usually early in childhood.

Here are some of the scenarios that can cause the development of anger control problems:

• Various types of abuse--physical, sexual, emotional and verbal.



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• Extreme neglect--this usually leads to other types of problems, but can sometimes contribute to temper control issues.


• Abandonment--the way this works is that you fear abandonment so much that you push others away with your anger, to prevent them abandoning you.


• Spoiling and favoritism--what starts out as being "cute" can turn very ugly. Adults who were spoiled as children often become controlling, angry tyrants with a bad temper.


• Unhealthy role modeling--watching an angry parent on a regular or continuing basis while growing up can definitely lead to anger problems.

While there may be other causes of temper tantrums and anger control problems, these are the basic ones. Now let's get to the solutions.

How Do You Deal With A Bad Temper?

Well, that depends on who is asking, and who has the problem. Let's look at some of the most common scenarios:

• Child temper tantrums--your child's anger is trying to tell you something. In other words, there is a message, and you need to receive it and act on it. Read this story from a visitor to find out exactly how to approach this type of problem with your child.


• Teen anger--the bigger your child is, the more frightening their anger is. The sooner you act, the better. This is a big subject, so we have entire web pages devoted totally to teen anger. This one focuses on all adolescent anger management issues, this one on parenting teenagers, and this one is for teens who want to control their own anger.



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• Angry spouse--talk about a big subject! Here we have abusive relationships, marriage problems, and relationship problems in general. All of the help you need is right here.


• Co-workers--yes, we have a page for that too. With the workplace violence issues that have become more and more frequent in the past decade, this is a very important topic. Learn more about how to deal with bad tempers in the workplace.


• You, yourself--are you the one with the temper problem? Start by taking a look at these anger management worksheets, then go on to practice and master these anger management techniques. If you want to solve your anger problems once and for all, check out counseling, anger programs, or this comprehensive audio CD program.

Okay, that gives you what you need to get started. And yes, you're just getting started, but you can do this! You have a good heart, and you are your own best anger management resource.