What Is Wrong With Me, I'm Irritated And Annoyed With Everyone

by Erin

I'm a senior in high school. Freshman year, I was very active, had a lot of energy, lots of friends, and was always happy. This is a huge contrast to how I am these days. Now, I am never happy.

I am content to be alone. I am happy by myself and when anyone talks to me, I am immediately irritated and annoyed. This is with everyone- my mom, my friends, everyone. It happens even with a little question.

I am also always tired. I get home from school and just want to sleep for the rest of the day, but I can't because I have a job(that I don't like because I find it annoying as well). Everything in my life overwhelms me and I feel like I never have the time I need. I'm also very emotional during TV shows and movies, but I don't show my feelings or talk about them to anyone.

I cry at least once a day to myself because I am so stressed out by everything and everyone. I want to change but I can't. This isn't the way people are supposed to feel on a daily basis. Life seems more like a job than fun to me. I hate the fact that I'm so mean to the people that I'm supposed to love and be close with. I want energy again. What's wrong with me?

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Erin, and thanks for telling your story here. I'm not going to talk about what's wrong with you, because I feel certain that your feelings and reactions are there for a very good reason. You need to find out what those reasons are, and following my recommendations, you will start to feel better. And you will be better able to act like the good person you truly are.

Start with the exercises on this FAQ page. Take them seriously, and do them all as directed, and you will get some good results.

Your emotions are surfacing as a part of your healing process. You have apparently been wounded in the past, and if you don't work on those old wounds, they will work on you--all as a part of your brilliant mind's effort to heal your body, mind and emotions.

And I think doing this work will also help you to have more energy.

Believe in yourself, Erin. You can do this.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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Dec 02, 2016
I Feel The Same
by: Anonymous

I have never wanted to follow up on these feelings but today I just felt fed up. The only thing that calms me down is listening to depressing songs by Radio Head. And I feel so bad being mean to my mom and friends. They are only trying to help, but I just get irritated by everything they say and end up in a fight.

I am 25, and have been feeling this all my life, throughout different periods of my life. Sometimes I just get into bed and feel like that for some hours, listening to depressing music. Then I get up and try to pass through the day with the least possible interaction others.

Then the next day it’s like nothing ever happened.

Mar 20, 2016
To Cassie
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hi Cassie

A couple of comments for you to consider. When you heal from depression, sometimes anger starts to show up, and that is a sign of improvement. I know you don't like the anger, and that's good. You're a good person, and you don't want to be so irritable.

You will continue to heal, but it will help you to stay focused during the process. Do the exercises on this page, and that will help you to move forward with your growth and recovery from depression and anger.

I can tell you're a smart and loving person, Cassie. When you do those exercises, you will be moving closer to that good person you truly are.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

Mar 19, 2016
Irritable All The Time!
by: Cassie

I am in agreement with everything on this page! Everyone in my life annoys me. My parents, my boyfriend, the people I work with. I'm only 22 years old and I feel like I'm shielding myself from having a good time because I enjoy being alone.

I have a couple friends, maybe two at the most, and I can only be around them a certain amount of time before I become annoyed and just do not want to talk anymore.

I consider myself a very understanding and loving person. I am not mean and would never say anything hurtful nor have I ever in the past. But I find myself becoming more and more annoyed with the people in my life lately.

Occasionally I'll snap at my boyfriend whenever he chews loudly, continuously talks, or says something that annoys me.

As soon as it comes out of my mouth I immediately regret getting mad and feel terrible. This has happened on several occasions. I have been through depression and I'm sure that it has something to do with my anger, but I do not want to be this way!

My boyfriend is very sweet and as I explained to him he thinks I should talk to a professional. I am considering it, but I was just curious if anyone else feels this way.

Jan 12, 2016
I Have The Same Feelings But I Don't Know Why
by: Anonymous

I haven't been through any problems. I haven't been hurt or anything. I'm constantly aggravated with people. I like being alone. I hang out with my teachers because I don't like the kids at my school. I sometimes feel really sad and empty And aggravated. But there's no reason to. I have good friends, and an awesome family. I don't know why I feel like this sometimes. I have no reason to but I can't help it.

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