She Left Me

by Anonymous

Well for the past 5-6 months I've been yelling a lot, especially at my formerly mentally abused girlfriend. That prompted her to decide we needed a break.

I love this girl with all my being. All I want to do is grow old with her and live a normal happy life. She says it's not ruined or over, but we are working through it, or at least trying. She doesn't tell the whole truth sometimes, and that is my trigger for the outbursts.

I didn't think we could ever get to this point, but we have and it is so hard for me to sit and watch her walk away after 2 yrs of being together almost every day.

I've had head trauma which is some of the cause for my anger. No excuse, though. I could have and should have stopped a long time ago while things were still okay.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. You obviously love your girlfriend, and want to do anything you can to save your relationship. You will need to want to be emotionally healthy even more. You have to put your own emotional healing as top priority, and the relationship will most likely benefit.

Start by doing the three journaling processes on this page. These are powerful tools, and if you use them you will definitely start to feel better.

Use these imagery processes for emotional healing in order to resolve any past emotional trauma you may have. You can also use this two part imagery process for positive mental rehearsal to mentally prepare yourself to maintain better emotional control in future interactions with her.

If you want to go even further with your healing, and work in a more structured program, I suggest you sign up for online anger management classes, which are available in 8, 12, 16 and 26 hour programs.

Focus on the goodness in your own heart, and make up your mind to get healthy. Then, if your girlfriend chooses to be with you, you will be bringing a much better partner to the relationship.

Believe in yourself. You can do this.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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