Sound Or silence

by Chelsea
(Austin )

I have always been the person that holds on to things, and at a later date I blow up for that thing, plus whatever else I just got mad for.

I've been in an abusive relationship before, so now I catch myself holding my feelings back more than ever. That's what saved my life plenty of times, but it was also the reason I got hurt sometimes.

I am finding myself afraid to speak to most people (men), because with a shattered mind comes low or no trust.

I feel like this issue is affecting my current relationship. I just get upset, because I feel like everyone is always talking, and I'm forced to be silent because no one is willing to listen, or no one cares. All this holding information is unhealthy, and I'm tired of doing it.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Chelsea, and thanks for telling your story here--and breaking your silence. I strongly encourage and support you in your decision to express yourself.

I suggest you start with the journaling process you will find on this page. That will help you to write about all of the abuse and trauma you have been through in the past.

Then write about your anger, as described on this page. This type of writing is a first step to self expression, and it makes the next steps easier.


Also use these imagery processes for emotional healing, to help resolve some of the trauma from your past. I strongly encourage you to use these tools repeatedly, since the more you use them the more benefit you will receive.

This positive journaling exercise will also help you, to keep your mind from staying fixated on the stress-producing topics of focus.

Expressing yourself is a way of honoring and respecting yourself, Chelsea. How you feel about yourself may be the most important aspect of your life. I strongly encourage you to check out this CD program on improving self esteem and this web page on self love.

If you know someone who would be willing to practice with you, try these communication skills with a partner. The more you use them, the more you will benefit.

Believe in yourself, Chelsea. Put yourself first from this moment forward, and you will have more to bring to everyone you know.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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