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Walking on Eggshells

by Diana
(Tennessee )


Hello, I’ve been married for 29 years. We have 2 sons. Our problem is my husband’s anger issues. The least little thing will set him off and he goes on a rage.

He is prone to yelling, cussing and embarrassing me in public. I have talked to him about his anger several times. I even got him to go to the doctor and get on some anti depression meds after he had a total meltdown outside trying to work on his car. He was in a fit for hours screaming, cussing and throwing stuff. I know the neighbors heard him.

The meds worked. He stayed on them for almost a year then said “I’m not going to take it anymore. I don’t like the way I feel on them.” So here we are again back to the fit throwing.

I’m so tired of it. I’m really thinking about leaving. This is not how a marriage should be. I use to be a happy go lucky person but he has changed me. I stay depressed. Not knowing what kind of mood he is going to be in when he walks in the door every day is tiring.


My father died last year and my nerves just can’t take much more. I dream what it would be like to be with someone who is easy going. Someone I could talk to and not get ignored completely or set him off.

He has no compassion. I feel all his anger outbursts over the years have killed my love for him. I don’t enjoy going anywhere with him because I’m just waiting for something to happen and he goes off. It is so embarrassing to go out in public with him.

I can’t relax. He keeps my anxiety level sky high. Anybody else been through this?

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Oct 25, 2021
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Your Thinking Seems To Be Clear
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hi Diana. You seem to know exactly what you need to do. As important as marriage is, it is not more important than your mental and emotional health.

You're the only person who can take the necessary action to create safety and happiness for yourself.

The dream you have of a good relationship where you are treated with respect and kindness is good...that's the way it's supposed to be, and you are worthy of that.

Be the champion of your own heart and happiness, Diana.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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