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Uncontrollable 7 Year Old

by Melody
(Bronx New York)

I have a 7 year old boy who's anger issues are so bad I get called everyday from school. Sometimes I have to pick him up because the people in the school cannot control him.

He has a fight every day with one of his classmates. He runs out of the classroom and just doesn't listen.

The problem stems from his dad not being around. His dad is in prison and he now comprehends why his daddy doesn't come pick him up to spend time with him.

I'm at wit's end. I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown if his behavior continues like this. I can even lose my job from having to leave every other day.

I'm taking him to see a psychologist now because I feel he really needs someone to speak to that isn't me or someone he knows that can try to help him. Hopefully that will work.

At home it isn't that bad with his siblings but I really need all the help I can get for him because its taking a toll on the family and I really don't want him to hurt himself or anybody else.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Melody, and thanks for telling your story here. I can tell you're having a very hard time with your son. I know how difficult that can be. I will try to help.

I think you're wise for taking him to a psychologist, and I agree that you need all of the help you can get, in order to help your son.

Whether you realize it or not, you are the most important and influential person in your son's life. Therefore, taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for him. I strongly encourage you to do everything in your power to keep yourself healthy and happy, no matter what is going on with your son. He needs you to be well and strong...and it will be good for you too.

You will find all of the guidance you need in the audio program below. Click below and listen to free previews now!

You can do this, Melody. Believe in your son and the goodness inside him. Focus on his best qualities, rather than on his shortcomings (I know this is a tall order, but it will really help).

And take really good care of yourself...exercise, eat healthy, relax, take warm baths, get massage, etc.

I hope this helps.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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Oct 04, 2012
Raising difficult children without support
by: K

Dear Melody- I read your post and can understand what you are going through. I have a 3 year old with major behavior problems and this has been made a lot worse by his dad working away for long periods of time.

He misses his dad and takes it out on me, which is so unfair as I'm the one here trying to look after him.

He has been through hitting, kicking, biting, screaming, shocking tantrums, won't listen etc, he is a good kid though- what helped us was seeing a child psychologist and also a nutritionist. We did the failsafe diet and cut out all the additives and he is a LOT more in control if himself now. This helped as well as a behavior chart with rewards and loss of privileges (fave toys/ "treats"/ tv time/ computer use) as well as a limit to tv and more outdoor play/ exercise.

I've also seen a psychologist to deal with my own myriad of issues as I felt very at the point of complete breakdown. I saw my own mother go through this and wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's hard I know- but there are people out there who care, even if you don't have a lot of support now, keep reaching out and asking and you WILL find some answers and things that work.

Mothers are crucial and yet so often unsupported and under unfair amounts of stress. I put the link to my own post on here below if you want to have a read- so many people are struggling out there and I hope you find what you need to live a happy life. K

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