Everything Just Isn't Fun Any More
My name is Logan Badeau. So, Everything just is making me mad. I took the test ( the 20 question test) and I scored a 53 out of 60.
It is to the point where I am just losing it every single day over something so stupid. I have threatened people, yelled at them very loud, and much more.
My new thing is not listening to things, and when I get yelled at, I yell back louder than what they yelled at me. I flip out on everybody almost all the time. Everything is annoying.
Sorry this isn't getting into much detail. When I know that it will be looked at, I don't do well with that. I tend to think nobody likes me, so I kinda start to act depressed, and even mad that nobody is my true friend.
Today, in school, first I was kicked, pushed around, and then thrown into lockers. I'm completely tired of it. And I do get violent, a lot of the time.
I try my best to hold it in and it usually doesn't work as well as it seems. On my good days, I just walk away from the people that are making me mad. Now, on my bad days, I flip out on them. I have yelled at my best friend (just about my only friend) a lot. I feel like crap for doing it to him. I rant to just about everybody that talks to me.
My questions are:
1. Can you please help me with this, I don't know what to do anymore.
2. Is there a reason that I am like this?
3. Is this situation normal for people my age? ( 13 )
4. Is there anything I can say to somebody to make these things stop happening in school? ( Kicked, Lockers, Thrown)
5. Please, please help me. I don't know what is going on with me and I don't want to tell anybody about my situation. I haven't told any adults.
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hi Logan, and thanks for telling your story here. I can tell you're having a hard time, and I will try to help.
To answer your questions, yes I can help, yes there's a reason for what's going on, and no, it's not normal for 13 year olds. Yes, there are things you can say that will help.
First, I want you to do all of the exercises described on this FAQ page. That will help you understand your anger, where it comes from, and it will begin your healing process.
Also, Logan, I suggest that you read this page on bullying. You're a good kid, and that's why you want to get better.
Make up your mind to do these exercises, and you will feel better.
Believe in yourself, Logan. You can create a good life for yourself.
My very best to you,
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