Anger As A Single Mother

by Macey

I am a single parent. There are moments when I’m parenting that stress can really hit me hard. It’s hard to manage two kids by myself and sometimes I just want to lock myself in my room and scream!

I love my kids so much but sometimes it’s really hard to control my stress. My kids know when I’m angry, because they will stop and ask me ‘what’s wrong’. They will usually ask me this if they notice I’m talking louder or if I’m hollering at them for every little thing they do wrong. Sometimes they may see me banging pots and pans in the drawers while I’m cooking.



I do this to release my anger and sometimes it works. There are moments when I get like this and the kids stay away from me. But there are some moments they join in with me. They grab some pots and pans and bang them together right along with me!

Whenever they do this, it actually puts a smile on my face. My kids love me so much that they will do anything to make me happy, even when I’m angry and stress! Being a single mother is hard, but with the help of my kids, they can at times help me manage my anger.



Response from Dr. DeFoore

Great story! This points out how much children naturally love their parents and want them to be well and happy. Children can be very wise, as this mother's story shows.

I so respect your wisdom, Macey. I think your story as published here will help a lot of other parents who are trying to do the best they can at one of the most challenging jobs in the world. Your humility and willingness to learn from your children speaks to the integrity of your spirit and the quality of the kind of person you are.

All my best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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Jul 04, 2016
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To: "I Can't Control..." Your Focus Needs To Be On Your Anger Not Your Children
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. You obviously don't like acting this way, and that's why you're reaching out on this site. That's because you're a good person, and you want to be a good mother.

Your children's behavior sounds pretty normal. The problem is the extreme anger you're experiencing. You need to focus on your anger and healing it, rather than focusing on what your children are or are not doing.

Do the exercises you will find on this page, and stick with them until you start feeling some relief. If that doesn't help, please seek some counseling for yourself. It is your job to protect and love your children.

I know it's not easy raising your children alone. But you can rise above this anger and aggression and make better choices, because it's in your nature to be wise and good. Believe in that good nature and take the actions I recommend.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

Jul 03, 2016
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I Can't Control My Anger Towards My Children
by: Anonymous

I've had a lot of anger build up lately, maybe within the past week to week & a half. I had my niece living with me, and she has 2 kids. I also have 2 kids.

I've told my kids that all I want is for them to pick up after themselves & keep their room clean, and I will take care of the rest of the house. Now I’m throwing dishes & silverware away that they leave on the floor, & I broke a window to a screen door because my daughter got into my face astringent & wasted half the bottle.

She lied to me about makeup she took out of my bag. My son won't clean his room. I've even gotten to the point of contacting their dad who is 1600 miles away to come and get them.

I’m tired of them not listening. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to do something I know I’m gonna regret.

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