Young, Angry And Hopeless

by Jane Miller
(Texas)

I am young, yet I feel so old and tired. I'm a teenager and I know I should not be feeling like this. I can't help it though.


I hate so many things and am displeased by a lot of things and people. I try to explain to people but they just don't get it. I have since given up and just say "I'm fine" and smile the fakest smile possible. This keeps people away and keeps them from questioning me.

I can't answer why I am so angry because I truly don't know. I am frustrated and don't even know why. I'm supposed to be happy. I'm young, in college, and pretty intelligent yet I am so angry and have violent fits of anger where I turn my whole room upside down in destruction.

After this I piece myself back together and pretend that I am fine when I know I am not. I have done this now for two years. And after every fit of anger I get super exhausted and start to tremble. I don't know what's wrong with me.

I don't know what to do. Maybe I'm just unhappy but I don't know why and that's all I want to know. I also have lost hope and see the world through very cynical eyes. I don't trust people and I never let anyone in.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Jane, and thanks for telling your story here. Even though you don't know what it is, I assure you there is a good reason for your anger. I will suggest some things that will hopefully help you find out what that reason is, so that you can begin healing.

Anger comes from past emotional wounds. You will find a process described on this FAQ page which includes a journaling process that will ideally help you discover the story behind your anger. You will also find the tools there that are necessary for healing your anger.

I want to congratulate you for taking the action of reaching out here for help. I know that is hard for you at this point, since you describe yourself as having become cynical, not trusting anyone.

Trust yourself, Jane. You decide if these tools I recommend are right for you. You're in charge.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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