Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
Even though social anxiety disorder seems to come out of the blue, it has a cause and you can heal it. You don't have to live with this the rest of your life.
This is where you will learn the skills for healing your anxiety symptoms, stopping the anxiety attacks, and developing the social skills you have always wanted.
Whether you're on medication for your social anxiety disorder or not, you will get great benefit from this information.
This is a do-it-yourself process, that puts you in the driver's seat. And many of the tools you will learn here cost you absolutely nothing.
All you need is motivation to change and the belief that you can change. You can do this!
This problem can come from a variety of causes. Take a look at the following causes, and see what fits the best for your situation:
If you don't find something that rings true here, then keep looking. I assure you there is a good reason for your social anxiety, and the reason is not that there's something basically wrong with you. You're a good person, with a lot to offer, and you're struggling with a problem--that doesn't make you bad or sick or crazy, that makes you human.
You already know that your social anxiety disorder problem is inside you. It probably feels very good to you to know that the solution is inside you also!
Let's take a look at some of the do-it-yourself skills that will help you become your own resource for healing:
1. There's a story behind your anxiety. Use these journaling processes to find and tell that story. This is an essential first step!
2. Next use some type of breathing (such as the one below) and/or meditation process to regularly practice relaxation, and to train your mind and body to be more calm.
3. The third step in your do-it-yourself anxiety healing skills is another imagery process. Click here for this two-part exercise, that will really work well for you, if you use it. It combines visualization and imagination for a positive mental rehearsal of your desired future outcomes.
4. Here are a couple of breathing exercises below, that will also help you. I learned them from Dr. Andrew Weil's audio program, Spontaneous Healing. He says that this breathing process is the single most effective treatment for anxiety he has ever used. Here are the steps:
Here is the first exercise (do this one time through, then move to the second one):
Social skills are not complicated, it's just that the anxiety makes them difficult to use. As I mentioned above, social anxiety disorder can sometimes be caused partially by not having good social skills.
Let's take a look at the social skills now...remember, these are just the basics:
I know you might be thinking, "Isn't there a pill I can take for social anxiety disorder?" The answer is yes, there are lots of pills you can take! The question is, what results will you get?
The only problem is that pills (medication) treat symptoms--not the cause. At best, you'll get temporary relief with medication, but for lasting results, you'll need to get the cause and heal the underlying issues.
Learn more about social anxiety disorder.
In summary, social anxiety disorder does not have a chemical cause, and therefore there is no long-term chemical solution. These tools described above will help you get to the cause and implement a permanent cure for your anxiety disorder.