Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
Silent rage is no secret, even though it's silent. Most communication is nonverbal, and you can rest assured that your eyes, expressions, voice tone and mannerisms are communicating your suppressed rage and anger.
Keeping it inside is certainly better than exploding on someone, it's just not a long term solution. It got this way because you don't know what to do about your anger, and it just kept building. Like a storm brewing, it's not just sitting there, it's getting ready for something to break.
It's time to take care of this, before it gets much worse. There are answers here, and you can take the necessary steps to get past this problem. You've got what it takes to get the job done.
It never "comes out of nowhere" like a lot of people think. There is always a reason for all kinds of anger, including rage.
So, what is rage and how is it different from plain old anger? Good question. Rage is a result of a lot of anger, pain, confusion, feelings of helplessness and a little bit of "I don't care any more." That's why it's so dangerous. Let's look at where it comes from:
It's only silent because you're afraid of what will happen if you let it out. You're not a bad person, and you really don't want to harm anyone...but the rage kind of makes you crazy. That's the way rage works.
The only reason you're still reading this is because you have some hope that things can get better. You are tired of the silent rage, and you don't want it to explode or turn into an illness.
You're a good person, and that's why you don't like all of the anger inside. So, here are the steps:
You've already taken some important steps to healing silent rage, just by being with me at this point.
You can do this. You have the will and determination and good heart right there inside you.