Relationship Problems Caused By Anger
What They Are And How To Solve Them

Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.

Your relationship problems are causing you pain. That's because you know it's supposed to be better than this! And that knowing comes from the very best part of you.

Unhealthy anger is one of the main causes of such common problems as finances, parenting, sex, in-laws and daily habits.

Take the anger out of the equation, and a lot of these problems are much more manageable.

It's either because the anger comes out in harmful ways, or because it doesn't get expressed at all.

Your relationships are very important to you, so here's your chance to learn how to solve the problems and make them better.

What Relationship Problems Does Anger Cause?

Well, that depends. When anger comes out the wrong way, it hurts your relationships. When you stuff it and don't express it at all, it hurts you and the relationship. Let's look at how that shows up:

The most obvious example is "blowing up" in someone's face, with verbal abuse, emotional abuse and physical abuse. This can lead to relationship problems like:

Power struggles
Competition
Ongoing arguments
"Silent warfare"

The less obvious example would be what happens when you stuff your anger and don't express it at all. This usually causes "sideways anger" or passive-aggressive behavior, leading to problems like:

Tension
Cold distance
Lack of communication
"Silent treatment"
Growing resentment

And, anger adds to the typical marriage problems that are familiar to most of us, such as:

Money problems--spending, budgeting, etc.
Sexual problems--such as frequency and affection
Marriage expectations and roles in marriage--who does what and when, etc.
Issues with in-laws and extended family
Socializing preferences and differences

Did you know that unexpressed negative emotions create walls that separate us from those we love? It's true. It's also true that unhealthy expression of anger can create walls, and all of the problems in the second list above.

How Do You Solve These Relationship Problems?

Let's get right to the solutions:

First things first...take a look at yourself. Sorry, I know you'd really like to fix that other person, but that just doesn't work. You have to come first, for the simple practical reason that you are the heart and soul of every relationship, and if you don't take care of yourself mentally and emotionally, you will have trouble with relationship problems.
If you have your own anger issues, you definitely need to get started dealing with those before you start focusing on your relationship. There are many excellent sources of help for you right here on this site.
If you have low self esteem, and want to increase your self love, learn about Nurturing Your Inner Child.
To get an overview of what this site has to offer, visit our site map. This is where you can learn to be your own best anger management resource.

Okay, that's about it. Just follow the links above, and you'll find everything you need to heal yourself emotionally, and to start creating the relationship you have always wanted.

Oh, and before you go, listen to the free previews of Expectations In Marriage below!

EXPECTATIONS IN MARRIAGE:
Healthy Ways to Deal With Disappointment and Anger in Loving Relationships

Everyone enters marriage with great expectations. All too often, you may end up disappointed or angry about how things turn out. This audiobook will help you understand your expectations and develop skills for moving beyond your disappointment and become a loving partner to your spouse.

Listen To Previews Now!