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I live in Australia. My sister introduced me to a girl in Europe who became my wife after a year or so. As we were preparing for our wedding, I realised that my wife hates all of my family, every single one of them, even though she hasn't met most of them. She started creating arguments out of the blue. I wondered, am I blind not to see what she is seeing? Eventually, I realised that my wife is so possessive. She wants me to be hers only. If I greet a passerby or even respond with just smile, she questions why I deviated my attention away from her!
Before we got married in Europe, we attended a meeting with the priest who was going to solemnise our marriage ceremonies. He lectured both of us about marriage and family values. To my surprise, my wife asked him, with tears in her eyes, how she is supposed to cope with my big family! I wondered why she was so worried. Why would she fear them? I didn't raise the issue with her at that time as I thought once she gets to meet them, she will realise how much they all loved her.
We got married and travelled for our honeymoon. Her sister called in to say hi after about 10 days. While I spoke nicely to her sister, my wife was giving me gestures to terminate the call. I eventually did. When I asked her if she had any problems with her sister, she said no, but she just needs all my attention and all my time to be allocated to her. I thought, OK, it is our honeymoon. She could be right.
My elderly mother lived with me before we got married. I had agreed with my wife that we would move to our own new house. Of course, my mother didn't like the idea. I confronted her and said that I need to have my own life like she had hers. I asked my wife to stay away from the argument. But my mother managed to annoy my wife and the two clashed within a week after my wife moved in. Eventually, my wife decided to go back to Europe until she gets the spouse visa to come to Australia. The plan of having a new house was put on hold! On the day that my wife was about to leave, my mother clashed again with her about silly things. Since then, I haven't spoken to my mother although she is living with me in the same house!
My brothers and sisters spoke to my wife, showing support and expressing sympathy. They explained to her that my mother is elderly and needs attention. Yet, my wife clashed with every single one of them. She insulted them and managed to upset every single one of them. She put me in a position to take sides. She faked stories and exaggerated events. Yet, I thought I had to take her side because she needed me. I wisely chose to take my wife's side, although she was wrong in her accusations.
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