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My Relationship With My Parents Is Falling Apart

by Anonymous

Bright Horizons Ahead

Bright Horizons Ahead



I am a senior in high school, and will be leaving for college in 6 months. My relationship with my parents has always been a decent one, even though they're pretty strict.

About 2 months ago I tried talking to them about giving me a little more space and freedom being that I'm almost an adult here. I just wanted them to leave my room alone (you know, not move things around without asking me, etc.), be a little more lenient with my curfew, and just basically allow me to have the responsibility of making some of my own decisions. They agreed to this request at the time, but just won't follow through with it.

Things in my room are constantly being moved around, my mom is all over me about my grades (which makes no sense because I've always had straight A's), they still won't allow me to stay over at a friend's house, and it's all just driving me insane. I'm not usually a person who gets angry, but when they continue to do these things after I politely remind them of what we talked about, I get absolutely livid.

They also talk to me and treat me like I'm a toddler. Anytime I speak lately I get screamed at for being disrespectful. I have no intention of ever being disrespectful. I might as well stop talking completely. I feel like I should have the right to my own privacy, have a little freedom, and be able to voice my opinion and stick up for myself now and then.

I've always done everything they've asked me to do, so I just don't understand this. I'm constantly angry any time I have to be in this house with them. I just want to move out, go to college, and move on with my life, but I'm stuck here for 6 more months.

At this point I feel like I just flat out dislike my parents, and want nothing to do with them. I don't think I've been this angry for this long about anything, and I don't know what to do anymore to control it.

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There Are Some Very Positive Things About Your Situation
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hi, and thanks for telling your story here. I can tell you're very bright, and a good person. You've got a lot going for you, and a wonderful future ahead.

You're right that your parents should respect your privacy, and allow you more freedom as you approach moving out to go to college. And, your mom's bothering you about your grades when you make straight A's just makes no sense.

I know this is hard for you, but I want you to consider the bright side of your situation.

1) Only 6 months!
2) You're a successful person, and you're going to love being an adult and moving toward more and more independence.
3) Your parents are "helping" you by making sure you want to leave. Seriously, they're giving you a strong nudge toward moving on, and in some ways that's a good thing. Many young people your age don't thrive in their independence because their parents try to be their best friend.

To get through the next 6 months, focus on what's good, right and working about yourself and your life. These journaling exercises will be helpful to you to manage your feelings in the meantime. You will be free soon!

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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