My Husband Won't Stand Up To His Adult Son And Defend Me
My husband and I married about 2 1/2 years ago. At the time all our kids were living on their own. Feeling bad about his 26 year old's job situation, he offered to let him move to town and live with us until he got a job. Not knowing that he would still be here a year and a half later, I was OK with it.
At first, his son treated me OK but would have angry outbursts about other people etc. When we did have a disagreement, he would only say things when his dad wasn't around. The disagreements are getting more and more frequent because he is refusing to clean up or help around the house.
For the past two months he is refusing to clean his room and stays in his room whenever we are all home. The last time I had the cleaning people clean his room, he put a deadbolt and lock on his bedroom door and locks it. He has turned his anger on me through passive aggressive behavior.
I have asked my husband to help me with this problem but he refuses to stand up for me. He feels I am making him take sides. We had a big argument last night and he told me he is taking sides against me! I am loosing respect for my husband and fear that I will be blamed when his son finally moves out.
My husband expects me to shut up and put up with it. I am done with that! What do I do?