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My Husband Has A Marijuana Problem And Rages Over Trivial Things
I am an intelligent, professional woman. I find myself in a situation that I desperately need advice about.
My husband and I have been married 4 years. We were a long distance couple before we married and only spent weekends together prior. I knew that he had a very blunt mouth and also occasionally smoked a joint with his coworkers after work.
What I learned upon marriage and full time togetherness is that he has an extensive marijuana problem as well has a hair trigger temper.
I cannot seem to please him no matter what I do. I try my best to work full time and take care of all the bills and the housework. I also take care of any business matters that may need attending to, as well as attempt to keep him happy.
It's a bigger job than I ever expected.
Our last big fight was when he belittled me because I lost the tie to the bread wrapper. That's correct…extremely trivial. He gave me a screaming rant for thirty minutes because he says I have no regard for his expectations.
His expectations are much too unreasonable. They leave no room for human error or honest mistakes. I've told him that. He simply cannot control his mouth and I get the brunt of his anger.
I'm in the most difficult spot. I love him but honestly he is killing all the love I've had for him, with this bad behavior. He will always apologize, but this is just a pattern that he has established and it does not change. He is right back on his rant, the minute something doesn’t go to suit his selfish whims.
I'm working hard to save my marriage, but I feel like I'm the only one who really does that.
Please help me understand. My emotions cloud my judgment.