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Sometimes I tend to answer my parents in a disrespectful way because I can get really annoyed when they keep telling me the same things over and over.
I don't like it when they tell me to do things, I hate it. So when they tell me to do something, and I have to do it, I act out and grunt, and make annoyed noises because that's how badly I don't want to do it.
But then they notice and then they get mad. I can't help it, it just comes out. That's the way I talk, I'm a mean and angry person. And sometimes I'm always grumpy. I hate it, because I know I if I see myself doing it I'll feel like a complete idiot.
I always say people don't understand me, but maybe it's the other way and I don't understand them. I'm a psychology student, first year and I feel that I should really talk to a doctor and get therapy because I don't really understand why I bust out my personality like that.
Please get back to me and help me overcome my anger!
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello Mackenzie, and thanks for telling your story here. You don't like the anger and grumpiness because that is not who you really are, or how you really want to be--if it was, you wouldn't have told your story here. Your true nature is good and kind and wise, and deep in your heart you know that is true. Begin developing an image in your mind of the person you want to be, and that image will come directly from your true, good nature.
I believe that if you will follow all of the recommendations I make here, you will get the results you're looking for. First, do the exercise recommended on this page, then begin letting go of your parents emotionally with these exercises.
This is not easy, Mackenzie, but you can do it. make up your mind and heart to become exactly who you want to be, and that is who you will become--because it is who you really are.
I offer professional counseling via telephone and Skype video phone, since you're out of the Dallas Texas area.
You can do this, Mackenzie. Believe in the goodness of your heart.
My very best to you,
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