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I Need Help With My Abusive 14 Year Old Brother
Hello. My name is Nathan. I am only 12 years old, and I have a 14 year old brother who is extremely abusive of me, my mom, and my dad.
My dad has a huge rivalry between himself and my brother. The only way to get him to behave is to physically hurt him. My parents always have that "What do we do with him?” face, and we don't have enough money to send him to boarding school.
Every night when he is at home, he sparks a situation which normally involves us fighting, yelling, and calling each other names. Every Sunday when we go to church, the whole fiasco is just escalated, and it's a lot worse.
I really would like to spend some time with my brother, but these are literally the only things he ever says to me: "No," "Shut up," and the only thing he ever calls me is “Retard.” He has no sense of appreciation or affection towards other people, and makes everyone so mad that it nearly tears the family apart.
It is currently November 28th, and my grandparents are staying for the week. Also, my 95-or-so year old grandma has been to the ER for the 3rd time now. I have a lot of stress in my life right now so it would be great if someone could get me an answer. (And trying to confront him doesn't work. He refuses to talk about his actions or emotions.)