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I Have Blackouts When I'm Angry

by Charlie
(England)



Recently I got into a fight in school. I was punched in the face and out of shock I stared at the person for a few seconds.

I could see the regret and fear on the person’s face (as I am rough 6 foot and about 17 stone at 15 years old), and yet I couldn't help but grab his throat.


It's as though I had no choice. I didn't realize until I actually noticed my hand there. That's the last I remember before I was being pulled off of him and pinned to the floor by 6 or seven pupils and my twin brother, who is of roughly the same build as me.

I've been told that in the minute that I missed I hit him several times in the face mixed in with some verbal abuse. The person was and still is my friend so obviously I didn't want to hurt him. He was almost unconsciousness after but he forgave me and I still don't know why he hit me.

I tend to bottle up my anger and am very good at not letting my emotions show. But it builds up inside me and I can feel it always there, bubbling away until it boils over and I black out and lash out.

I am very stressed with myself and others. In primary school I was a very easy person to push over the edge, throwing chairs in class and beating people on the playing field so I started bottling it up and now I'm here.

On the day I had the fight I had already had a bad morning, fighting with my brother, arguing and verbally abusing my mum (or so she says). I don't remember anything I said to her. Several other little things had also happened in the weeks leading up to the fight.

I lash out roughly once a month, sometimes more. Stress leads to violence, which leads to stress, and I just seem to be in this vicious cycle and I can't get out of it.

Just thinking about all this and writing this post, I have bent my iPad.

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Mar 30, 2015
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You Can Heal This Problem If You Work At It
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hi Charlie

You're a good guy, and that's why you don't like these anger blackouts and the way that you're hurting other people.

Your anger is there for a reason, and it's important that you figure out what that is and work toward healing.

Use the tools on this page on a daily and ongoing basis, until you start feeling some relief. These tools will help you, but only if you use them enough to become skilled with them, just like a new iPad...if it just sits there, it's useless.

Do this for yourself, Charlie. You're worth it.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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