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Hello. I am 15 years old I have this one teacher who I have argument with almost every day. I am mad before I even get into the class and we are also yelling and he is always yelling at me and ripping my ball out of my hands and he grabbed my bag and forced me into the class one time.
I always get sent out and I get mad and start pushing stuff and at home I punch stuff and hurt myself because I am mad. At school I get so mad sometimes I am so close to punching him and I can control myself I don't know what to do.
I have been offered to move classes but I hate change so don't want to. I have had some tough times in my life and in the last 6 months but I can't control myself and I think I will do something I regret.
I was sent outside today and I was smashing the walls with my elbows. Then the teacher and I started yelling and I was so close to punching him then when I got in the class I started shaking. I don't know what to do please help
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. There is a story behind your anger, and you need to know what it is.
Try writing out your answer to these questions:
1) What are your earliest worst memories?
2) Who did you love the most growing up, and how did they treat you?
3) Describe any sexual or physical abuse you experienced.
4) Describe any experiences of abandonment or neglect.
5) Who loved you the most? What happened in that relationship?
6) What are the memories you keep going back to in your mind? Write about those in full detail.
Now use the exercises on this FAQ page to complete your anger healing process.
You can do this. Believe in yourself and the goodness in your heart. That is who you are, and that's where your healing will come from.
My very best to you,
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