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I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He never had a committed relationship before. He may have dated other women etc., but not a woman that stayed.
I had committed relationships before, so I understood how things worked. At first the relationship was good. We both saw each other all the time. He was always excited to go places with me and that I was actually interested in being with him and going places with him. He did also get clingy but I didn't mind that because it made me feel needed.
On a separate note he has ADHD, depression, and anxiety, where he started abusing his medication. He also abused his other medications that he was supposed to take at night to help him sleep. On top of that he would drink with it. So during the day he would be high constantly when I saw him. I wasn't happy with it because I was worried he could overdose or hurt himself.
In the relationship in the beginning we rarely fought. I was always there for him. I'm a positive, happy person and I just wanted the best for him. I was just waiting or hoping that he realized he had support and people that love him to help him change, to get a job, and eventually move out with me.
Later he stopped abusing his medication but then it turned to alcoholism. We started to fight more. He started to blame me and accuse me of things that didn't even make sense. He now has a short temper and gets angry when I point out that he's the one that is wrong. I think he got used to me being the one that took care of him and he took advantage.
I never asked for a lot. All I wanted was to go out somewhere every once in a while or get a hug or a kiss. He would get mad at me for being on my phone and ignoring him when he was the one who started ignoring me first. He's allowed to do what he wants and say what he wants but I'm not. I don't even say anything offensive I try to talk about my feelings to him and how he hurt me.
But he turns it around on him as if he is a victim or about how he feels sorry for himself or how I make him feel worse. My intent is not to make him feel worse it's to make him realize how he hurt my feelings and I want him to admit when he's wrong and just apologize.
Our last fight was the worst. I made a comment towards him that he found offensive and it was because he upset me so he got on top of me and grabbed me. I smacked him because I wanted him off me. I then was on the floor and he was still on top of me so I bit him.
And then he pulled my hair. Later he shoved his arm into mine on the bed. I had a few bruises and he even told me he wasn't sorry and that I deserved it. He told me I was the one that was abusive and that I started it by hitting him first which I didn't do.
He still hasn't apologized and keeps saying how I hurt him by saying he was ruining my life when I don't even remember saying that. He calls me names and blames me for things that are not my fault. He even gets mad when I cry or try talking to him about my feelings because it bothers him. He never used to treat me like this and I don't know what happened.
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