Fear Of Aging And Dying

by Betty
(Texas)

I am 54 years old. I have always looked younger than my age. When I turned 50, I lost my job as a paralegal, my best friend died, I found out I have sleep apnea, Diabetes II, and other ailments.


My expectation of what my life should be and what it is when I look around are not the same. I find myself disappointed and mad. My life as a whole began to slide down hill. My health, my looks, my zest for life. I find I have great anxiety now about many things but dying is a major. Can you help me? Please.



Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Betty, and thanks for telling your story here. Your feelings make perfect sense, and a lot of other people feel like you do.

The thing is, it doesn't have to be that way. Research out of Yale and Harvard Universities has shown that a positive attitude about aging greatly improves health and longevity.

I highly recommend you preview and consider getting a copy of my CD program Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger, Wiser. You can get a full refund if it's not what you're looking for. I promise it will really help you.

Your body is a naturally self-healing organism. It is not designed to just decline and fall apart. Your job of staying healthy, alert and fit as you age becomes more challenging, and that's a good thing. If you take the challenge, educate yourself and practice healthy patterns (physically and mentally), you will get great results!

Focus on your body/mind's natural regeneration, rejuvenation and revitalization processes. The more you believe in them the better they work!

Aging starts at birth, and ends at death--so, aging is life itself! Embracing aging is embracing life.

Make up your mind, Betty, to make your aging process the best thing that ever happened to you!

Regarding your fear of dying, I suggest you find a positive spiritual belief system that offers comfort and reassurance about death. Death is a part of life, and you can find peace with your life, including its eventual end.

Believe in yourself, Betty. Focus on the goodness in your heart and mind, and that is where your healing and rejuvenation will come from.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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