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I never thought that I would ever ever be an angry person, but then I met my mom.
She came back into my life when I was seven and she tried to buy me all these things. That is where she went wrong. That is why I am so materialistic and think that everything is supposed to go my way. And that is when I get angry and I hate that about me.
But I am not going to blame this on my mom. It is myself that needs to change, and I have to want that change for myself--and right now I really want it. That is all I have to say.
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. Your problem is very unique. I will try to help, but only take the advice that works for you.
I suggest you try the anger journaling process described on this page, as a way of "containing" your anger in a safe, healthy way.
At the same time, begin a daily positive journaling process as described on this page. This will help you to shift your focus to the good in you and the world around you.
I think it's great that you don't want to blame your mother for your problems. It's also good that you understand where your problems came from. I suggest you write a detailed account of your time of separation and reunion with your mother, just for the purpose of your own clarity and understanding of how that affected you.
Check out our anger management techniques (link in left column), and see if any of them might work for you.
I'm glad you are motivated to change. If you use the tools I've recommended, I think you will get some good results.
Believe in yourself and the goodness in your heart. It's there, and it's who you are.
My very best to you,
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