New Age Guru

by Mickey

I went and paid for this session with a new age person. I was severely abused from the time I was a baby. I have cigarette burns all over me and I have many terrible memories but I have done a lot of work on myself and am doing well.


However I am in a transition period in my life and thought I would go and see this woman. My mother was the primary abuser and has abused me all my life. I think she is mad. She is certainly a sadist.

Anyway this new age guru told me that my mother was actually my best friend and anyway I had probably been a complete bitch to her in a former life and I deserved it and this treatment was karmic. She said 'whether you know it or not you've had many past lives.'

I went to one class of hers after that with a group and she would bring up things that I had told her in confidence. What the?

I've noticed that new age people speak with absolute confidence that their view of the world is 100% correct and it's often completely away with the fairies.

This doesn't fit in with my Christian philosophy at all and I eventually got angry about what she had said. I went through hell with my mother and I didn't deserve to be abused as a baby and innocent little girl or teenager or adult.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Mickey, and thanks for telling your story here. A lot of people can relate to what you've written here. Many have been hurt and/or misled by those whose counsel they seek. It is unfortunate, but true.

I always encourage anyone I'm talking to about finding a therapist to trust their own feelings, and don't go back if it doesn't feel right. Which is exactly what you did.

While it is always a good idea to seek guidance from those with credentials or a similar spiritual background, that is no guarantee. You have to trust your own heart and gut about what is right for you.

I wish you all the best in your continued healing. You have obviously been through a lot, but as you know, you are not defined by what happened to you. You get to decide the kind of person you want to be.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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