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Anger Management
Get To The Heart Of The Matter

Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.

Your best anger management resource is your good mind and your good heart. You (or someone you know) got disconnected from that great inner resource, and that's why the anger problems are showing up.

I'm Dr. William DeFoore, and I have over 40 years of experience as a professional counselor, author and speaker on anger management, healthy anger and healthy relationships. I believe in the unlimited capacity of each human being to overcome their problems and reach all of their goals.

Anger "hardens your heart," which is how you get disconnected from that center of compassion and wisdom at your core. And of course, this disconnects you from others...usually those you love the most.

When you're angry, you're usually blaming somebody else for how you feel. This is normal, but it just doesn't work.  You can't get those other people to change (I hope you've figured that out by now...) so let's look at what you can do.

When you use the tools & resources we provide here, you're going to get smarter and stronger as you reconnect with your best inner nature. You'll learn to make your anger and all of your emotions work for you, not against you.

A Message For You From Dr. DeFoore

We want to help you to believe in yourself and your ability to get better.  

You have a lot more freedom to change your situation and control your anger than you think you do. Take a look at what we offer here, and you'll see what I mean.

Here's a brief overview of what this site offers:

How is this approach to anger management going to make you smarter? It goes like this...unhealthy anger shuts down the smart part of your brain, and healthy anger gives you more access to your brain's power.

How will you get stronger when you learn to express your anger in healthy ways? Anger might seem strong, but when it causes you to act in ways you later regret, you're actually making yourself weaker with your anger.

Your best anger management resource is inside is your good sense and good heart working together.

On this site you will:

  • Find the story behind your anger, and retell it using your intelligence and good heart.
  • Learn tools and techniques to heal your anger management problems and create healthy, loving relationships.
  • Become the good person you want to be...the person you truly are inside.

Your good heart really does matter...

How do I know that you have a good heart? Because you're here, reading this. You wouldn't be on this site looking for help if you didn't want things to be better. I also know your heart is good because of my professional experience.

I've seen thousands of folks heal from their anger management issues, anxiety and depression. I watch them going deeper into who they really are, into their compassionate, loving heart and their basic good sense. This happens again and again, no matter how angry or upset the person was when they first started counseling. 

"So why do I have these anger management problems?"

I've heard that question many's my best answer.  Everyone has anger, but it's not always a problem. Anger management problems might show up if:

  • You were a victim of abuse, neglect, abandonment (or all three) when you were a child.
  • You were exposed to a lot of bad role modeling from parents or other caregivers.
  • You were spoiled as a child, giving you a false sense of entitlement that no one can measure up to.
  • You have experienced extreme trauma or grief in your adult life, and have not been able to heal from it.
  • You have developed a negative view of other people and the world around you, keeping you irritated and angry all of the time.

Those are a few of the main reasons, and there are more. You'll figure out the story behind your own anger as you use the journaling processes we recommend.

Once you know the story, you know the cause. When you know the cause, you can heal the pain and fear that's been driving your anger.


"With exceptional communication skills, Dr. DeFoore can quickly get to the heart of the issue and then create shifts and movement very efficiently. I have referred many people to him with great results."

- Chris Lucerne, Master Certified Coach

Time to jump in! Follow the links on this page, or do a search for the answers you need. No problem is too big for you to overcome. You can do this!

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