I Love My Family So Why Do I Get So Angry?
I'm in my late 40's with a wonderful wife and 3 great kids. My problem is that whenever I let my anger show it is always directed at my family.
I don't physically harm anyone but I scream and yell and make an ass of myself. The funny thing is, at work everyone adores me. My employees love me and even when I'm disciplining someone for workplace behavior or attendance, I don't show the kind of anger that I exhibit at my family for even the smallest things.
I need help fast! Could this have anything to do with the fact I was sexually abused as a child? I shared this with my wife about 8 years ago and things were great for a few years but now anger, frustration and feeling powerless are seeping back into my life.
The other part is that she has begun spending more time with her friends, and shares things with them that I feel she should be talking to me about. This only compounds my feelings of fear, loneliness and inadequacy and causes me to say things when we argue that I immediately regret like, "I want a divorce."
I'm tired of causing her and my kids pain. This has to stop.