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I Am Always Angry Especially At My Mother
I'm always angry, especially at my mother. I try not to be.
I try to keep myself from saying bad things or hurting the people I love. But I guess that just makes it worse, because all my bad thoughts get piled up in my head, and I end up even more angry.
And I release all those thoughts on one person. I've tried many techniques on how to control my anger, but none of them have worked. Do you know of any techniques that are sure to help me with my problems?
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello Olivia, and thanks for telling your story here. I don't know what you've already tried, but I think you'll find the techniques I recommend to be different from what you'll find elsewhere.
First, do all of the exercises you find on this FAQ page diligently and consistently. By the way, these tools work...if you use them. Be sure and use them, and I think you'll start finding some relief.
Regarding your relationship with your mother, it sounds like there's a lot going on there. Emotionally letting go of parents is key to maturity, happiness and emotional health as an adult. Use the methods you find on this web page to help you sort out your emotions and let go of your mother.
I hope this helps you, Olivia. The reason your anger bothers you so much is that it is not a reflection of who you really are. It is there for a reason, and when you start to discover those reasons and provide some healthy expression for your anger and all of your emotions, you will start to heal.
Believe in yourself. Believe in the healing force that lives inside you. Believe in the goodness that is who you really are.
My very best to you,
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