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Drunk Landlord

by Steph
(Perkasie, PA)



Basically I've lived above my landlord for the past six years. He has no concept of personal space, the laws for renters, or general respect for others.

I'm finally moving because I've had enough, and gratefully I found love, so my boyfriend and I are moving in together.

I told my landlord 5 months ago that I was leaving in 6 months, and he has really revved up his asshole nature. Now he is illegally trying to evict me. Chances are he won't win, if I understand the laws correctly.

He has harassed me non-stop through email about doing contract work on this place, which none of it has to do with me, not legally. I work from home so this has made it impossible to relax in my own home or at all.

I have done everything I can afford to do legally as I don't have money for an attorney. I'm still leaving in one month so I know I'll be out of here soon but I cannot tell you the level of contempt I have for this fool.

I want him to suffer. I want to see it with my own eyes. But I know that focusing on this is unhealthy and karma is not in my schedule.

Yet I walk around continually enraged at his oblivious and obtuse nature.

How can I be happy when this is consuming me?

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Sep 01, 2017
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You Will Get Through This Soon
by: Dr. DeFoore

Hi Steph, and thanks for your story. I know how infuriating it is when people act like that. Your anger is totally understandable, but of course you're tired of it, and want to be happy.

Here are some steps you can take:

1) Make up your mind that you're not going to let this man steal one more moment of your joy. Every time you think of him, picture him in your mind, and say to yourself, "I will not use you as a reason to be unhappy."

2) Write from your anger, as described on this page. Be sure you don't hold back...let it all out. Then take a look at what you've written, and move on to focus your mind on all of the good and positive things in your life. This "honors" your righteous and justified anger, without letting it dominate your consciousness and steal your joy.

3) Get really good at finding and focusing on the good things about you and your life. This is a skill to practice daily, and the more you do it the better it works for you.

This guy is a blip on the screen of your life, and is not worthy of your focus and attention. If you still find yourself stuck in the anger, go deeper into your emotions with this journaling exercise that will take you to the underlying causes and issues behind your anger.

You're going to do great with this, Steph.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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