Be Careful Who You Squirt
(Morgan Hill, CA)
My name is Mike. You might have read my story, entitled "30 Seconds and Everything Changes."
Well my life has turned completly sideways. It was about 4 months ago I was in the garage waiting for my boss to show up. He was coming to pick up my dirt bike. My father, my self and boss were going riding for the weekend. Well, he was running a little late and I was trying to find someting to do so I emptied the garage and began to wash it out with the garden hose.
After about 2 minutes, Amy comes running into the garage yelling at me, telling me that if I get the cardboard boxes wet they will become toxic. So I'm thinking, "Yeah, that's what I'm going to do, let the kids come out and chew on the toxic boxes." She then starts to tell me what a loser I am and how she hates me so much. Then she calls me a fagot.
So I squirted her with the hose and said "Cool down!" She looks at me and says "You're through" and runs in the house and grabs a mop with a metal handle on the end, the type you fold over to wring out the sponge. She starts swinging it at me, and I said stop or I'll squirt. She doesn't stop, so she becomes very wet.
While she is swinging the mop at me, my boss pulls up and is wondering what kind of game is this. Amy runs in the house.
Well while I was squirting her I got water on the laundry room floor and my little girl slipped and fell. It scared her that her mom was so excited. To try and get things cooled down I told my boss please load my bike and I would see him later, and I left. Well, Amy had called the police.
I'm not going to go into all the other stuff, you know--cops, restraining orders, etc. I tried so hard to make it work.
I miss my wife and my kids, even though it was a bad relationship. I miss being at home hoping it would change. I'd rather be there than living without them.
I was charged with a misdemeanor battery and had to post a 15 thousand dollar bond. If I could talk to Amy right now, I'd say, "I love you Amy. I miss all of you, life is too short to always be angry."
Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello Mike, and thanks for telling your story here. Since I responded to your other story with my recommendations, I will be brief here.
Focus on getting healthy within yourself first. As hard as it may seem, this has to be your top priority over getting back with your family.
Take good care of yourself. You're the only one who can.
My very best to you,
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