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Always Get Mad With Everyone Around Me

by Morgan
(SC)

I feel like I always ruin everything. I get so mad at other people, my co-workers, drivers, my mother, and guys I'm trying to start a relationship with. I get mad when my co-workers don't do what I ask, or when I feel they aren't doing something correct.

I get really mad if they try to correct me on a mistake I make. I feel like they always try to call me out. I try to stay calm but you can hear in my voice I get an attitude. My mother always tries to talk to me about my career choices. I'm currently in the military and switching to go to a different military branch. My mom always brings it up and disagrees with my choices, she doesn't understand that it's what I want to do. She doesn't understand how bad I want to switch military branches. She tells me she doesn't think I can do it, or I won't go far. She has no belief in me.


As far as relationships go, I always ruin them. I get mad if I feel the guy isn't talking to me enough, or I feel like he is blowing me off when really he isn't. I get an attitude and threaten to stop seeing them, and they always tell me I need to chill out or they have been busy. I'm always worried they are talking to another chick or they don't like me any more, so I try even harder and end up scaring them away because I get clingy and angry with them.

I just don't know what to do any more. I get really bad road rage when I drive, I constantly tailgate, and drive fast or use my horn. Other drivers really bother me if they are in my way. I can't go talk to a therapist, as I feel it will affect my military career.

I'm single and live in a apartment just outside my base, my money is really tight and I'm always broke, and I constantly yell at my cats for everything. I never hit them, I just yell at them and put them in the bathroom so they don't annoy me anymore.

I hate being so angry, I used to be very quiet and shy until I joined the military, my family has even said I get really angry now.



Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Morgan, and thanks for telling your story here. It sounds to me like your military training has activated some suppressed anger, which is understandable. I want you to be optimistic about yourself, and try following my recommendations. You're a good person, and using these techniques, you will be able to get your anger into more of a healthy balance.

You will find all of the guidelines you need on this FAQ page. Follow all of the procedures, according to the instructions, and you will get some relief, and possibly get to where you want to be with your anger and your emotions.

You say your mother doesn't believe in you...and I know that's hard. You need to believe in yourself!

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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Feb 19, 2015
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by: Emerson

I am also planning to join an anger management course. The character of a person may depend on his or her past. If they had a bad childhood experience it will reflect in their character. Dr.DeFoore was really helpful in this regard.

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Me too!
by: Anonymous

Hello Morgan,

I have the same feelings as you do regarding a guy not paying full blown focus on me or is he dating someone else or why is he always so busy? Whenever he messages me he is always in a good mood and I end up ruining his mood and then I apologize.. he ends up saying, how many times are you going to. .I think I am also abusive to him (physically.. I do hit him too.. he gets me so mad, but he never raised his hand on me though)

Driving: I have used honks many times and apparently I am considered a really bad driver, I cut drivers off all the time on the road..

I need to get help bad! I am looking for the best help for myself..

Reading your story, made me realize I am not the only one dealing with it.

Thanks again.

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