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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "Tough Love And Forgiveness"
April 15, 2023

Tough Love And Forgiveness
How To Have Both

April 15, 2023
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #179

Contents of this newsletter

Understanding Tough Love And Forgiveness

If love is not sometimes tough, it may not be love at all. Without emotional intelligence and integrity, love can turn into enabling and codependency, which are damaging to love relationships.

It's a tricky balancing act. If your love is too tough, or you are too quick to forgive, then your relationships will be out of balance, and the love will fade, and that's when anger and resentment seep in.

How do you find this balance, to keep love alive and know when to forgive?

  • As long as you know that forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not for the other person, you can forgive now, and always.

  • The best way to make sure your love is tough and healthy, and to know when and how to forgive, is to do your inner work first The first two parts of emotional intelligence are self-awareness and self-management. That's where love begins. Then you're ready for social awareness and relationship management, which is where your love for others comes in.

  • That intuitive knowledge of when to put up boundaries (tough love) and when to forgive and move closer to those you love comes from inside you, and you can only accurately read those inner signals with a high EQ and a positive, loving relationship with yourself

  • Learn more about tough love and forgiveness.

Think of it this way...

Your good, loving heart is who you are. You also have a warrior spirit inside. When you get your warrior spirit aligned with your good heart, you will be able to create the healthy, lasting relationships you want.

William DeFoore

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