How Do You Get Stuck In Anger?
Anger is like a town you have to pass through to get to where you want to be. You just don't want to stay too long in that particular "town."
But like that town on your route, you really do need to go through your anger sometimes, to get to those feelings of satisfaction you want. The problem is, you can sometimes get stuck in the "town" of anger...and it's just not a pleasant place to be for too long.
Here's how your journey might look:
- There's something you don't like, and you want it to be different. So you start your journey to that better feeling of satisfaction and contentment.
- When you're faced with things you don't like, feelings of helplessness can often come up, and those feelings are just absolutely unbearable...this is where anger comes in...or where you come into anger town.
- As soon as you start feeling some anger, you feel a little (or a lot) more powerful, and not so helpless, which gives you some relief.
- Since the feeling of anger gives you a sense of power and some relief from the other feelings you were having, you can make the mistake of seeing the anger as a type of solution...but remember, it's a town on your way to where you want to be, it's not your destination.
Stay too long in "anger town," and you'll start having serious problems. It's bad for your health and relationships.
This newsletter is designed to help you get unstuck from anger, or to get you a ride out of "anger town" if you've gotten stuck there.
The vehicle you will use to get unstuck and back on the road is your brilliant mind and your good heart.
"Everybody's on the road to happiness and contentment. Most people don't realize that they're in the driver's seat and deciding moment by moment where they're going."
Your body/mind is your vehicle, and it's a real good idea to keep it tuned and in good working order. In other words, keep in mind that your health is key to your happiness...so exercise regularly!
Now let's look at the road map, and some of the important landmarks along the way to what you want.
Getting yourself confident and optimistic when you've been stranded in anger town a little too long can be very challenging. We can all use some help and support from others to get back on track and stay on track. That's why we created the Goodfinding Community Online page.
Here are some of the travel tips you'll need for your journey.
What Is The Road Map To Contentment?
First, you'll need to set your destination clearly, so you know for sure where you're going. Make it very clear in your mind that you want to feel resolved, content and satisfied regarding whatever issues have been bothering you.
Make sure you've got some fuel in your tank...not just good food (as important as that is), but some good fuel in your "mental diet."
Here are some necessary travel tips for your journey to feeling great:
- Set your GPS for a win-win outcome,
so that everybody concerned gets some kind of benefit. If you want somebody to lose or suffer, you'll be stuck in anger town for a long time.
- Appreciate all of the beauty along the way on your trip. Pay attention to what is good, right and working about your body/mind vehicle and all of the trees, flowers and fellow travelers on your route. Gratitude and appreciation are powerful forms of fuel for your mental diet.
- Now, turbo-charge your fuel tank with some optimism about the positive destination ahead of you.
- Think about, imagine and feel all of the positive benefits that lie ahead of you as you approach the land of contentment and satisfaction.
You are indeed the driver of your own vehicle, whether you know it or not. If you feel out of
control, that just means you've given your insecurities the freedom to drive your vehicle.
Our entire anger management web site is designed to get you back in the driver's seat when your vehicle has been hijacked by your negative emotions.
You've got the tools and the fuel you need for your journey. Happy travels!
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