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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "Tough Love vs Forgiveness"
January 15, 2020
Tough Love vs Forgiveness
"Tough love and healthy boundaries protect your good heart, while allowing it to stay open to love."
This is all ultimately a matter of trusting your inner wisdom. Most people (like the woman in the story above), already know the best thing for them to do. The difficult part is acting on that, which you can do...because you've got what it takes to be healthy and have healthy relationships.
Forgiveness is not always a choice. If you have been deeply wounded by someone, you will have to work through your emotions before you can forgive.
So, in your mind you might decide to forgive, but if you're still holding resentment in your heart and subconscious mind, true forgiveness will not happen.
True forgiveness is a release of anger and blame from deep within you, and it won't happen just because you decide in your mind that it is time to forgive. As a counselor, I know that forgiveness is occurring when I see the person's body breathe a deep sigh of relief as they let go of the deep toxic emotions associated with resentment.
Now let's look at how to know when it's time to forgive:
This is not simple or easy...but it's very, very important. Forgiveness is for you...to free your heart, mind and body of the toxic energy of old held resentments and anger.
Forgiveness is not letting the perpetrator off the hook...they are still accountable for their actions, but you're not holding them accountable by holding a battle with them inside yourself. You're forgiving the person for being flawed, you're not forgiving their destructive behavior.
This highly effective audio program, available as a CD or MP3 download, will help you let go of old anger and resentment and return to the loving, forgiving person you truly are.
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The Healing Anger Newsletter brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace.
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