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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "Heal Anger With The Art Of Appreciation"
July 01, 2012
Hi, learn about the art of appreciation.

The Art Of Appreciation
And How It Can Help You Heal Your Anger

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July 1, 2012
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #050

Heal Anger With The Art Of Appreciation
Turn The Fire Down Under The Pressure Cooker

Contents of this newsletter

What's new on the web site?

Some new visitor stories by good folks just like you, who want to deal with the anger in their lives in healthier ways. Check out This update from the author of "Before You Judge Yourself, Assess Your Situation." (Be sure and read his comments at the bottom of his article). He's doing well, and so can you!

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What Do I Have To Appreciate?

If you're angry, you might not appreciate anything. That's the point here. One of the ways we get ourselves so angry is by focusing so much on what is bad, wrong and broken in our lives.

There is always something to appreciate. And just by taking a few minutes to shift your focus to what is good in your life, you will start to feel less angry. This is not a cure-all for anger. It's simply a way to help you along the way.

Let's look at what you have to appreciate:

  • Start with the little things, like your computer or other electronic device that is making it possible for you to read this, and your ability to read. Don't take that for granted, because there are many people in the world who don't have either of those blessings.

  • Appreciate the aspects of your health that are working just fine. Do a mental scan of your body, and notice all of the things that are okay, and not bothering you.

  • Now scan your home, your vehicle, your possessions and your finances, and appreciate anything good you can find there. If something feels bad, just shift your focus and move on until you find something that feels either good or neutral.

  • Now think about the people who you love, and who love you. I know, those relationships are not perfect, but at least you have them. Make a list of all of the things you appreciate about your friends and family.

  • And finally, list all of the things you have accomplished in your life. Think of the problems you have overcome and the goals you have reached, however big or small they may be.

When you appreciate something (like your own body for example), you're more likely to take care of it, and when you appreciate others, you're more likely to be kind to them. Appreciation raises the value of what you appreciate.

If you're just too angry to do any of this, practice anger management techniques for a few minutes, and come back and try again. I promise it will help you feel a little or maybe a whole lot better.


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How Will This Help Me?

It will literally help you to be more like the good person you really are inside. That's because in your true nature, you are an appreciator of life. We all are.

Here are some specific ways the art of appreciation will help you:

  1. When you move from anger to appreciation, you're moving from one part of your brain to another. Anger is in the primitive fight-or-flight part of the brain, and appreciation is in the neocortex, a smarter part of the brain that looks for solutions to problems.

  2. When you focus on what is good, right and working, it will calm you down. It will help you to let go of that fear behind your anger that tells you things are bad and getting worse.

  3. It will literally cause you to open your heart. You may think your anger makes you strong, but it doesn' makes you weak. Kindness takes more courage than anger, and it will truly make you strong and show your strength.

  4. If you want to get started and practice the art of appreciation right now, learn about the Goodfinding journaling process. And you can watch a video about Gratitude, Appreciation and Optimism here.

You've got everything you need to succeed in this.

No matter how skeptical you might be, just give this a try. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

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This audio CD program, also available for download as an MP3 file to play on your computer, iPod or other MP3 player, will take you through all of the steps to learn the art of appreciation. And it will also show you how gratitude and optimism will help you reach all of your goals and make your dreams come true.

P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser.

P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone (including Skype video phone) counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session!

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Thanks for being here!

William G. DeFoore

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