Contents Of This Newsletter

• What Is Bad Anger?
• How Can Anger Be Good?
• Make Your Anger Good
• Welcome To New Subscribers
• What's New on AngerManagementResource.com?

What Is Bad Anger?

The simplest answer is...any anger that does harm, to you or anyone else is what we could consider bad anger. The thing is, all anger isn't bad. As a matter of fact, it can be a life saver.

Anger is an emotion that shows up when you feel threatened, opposed or violated in any way. In other words, anger is the feeling that comes when things don't go your way.

This happens to everybody, right? Right. So, everybody has some experience of anger. What sets us apart is how we deal with it.

The real question is, not whether anger is bad, but what makes anger destructive. Here are some things to consider here:

• We've established that anger starts out as a natural emotion...nothing wrong or bad there.


• Most parents, teachers, etc. have a tendency to punish or ignore anger, which causes kids to either stuff it down deep inside, or make it bigger and louder and meaner until it gets noticed.


• If you stuff your anger, it can contribute to anxiety and depression, which is a whole new kind of problem.


• If your anger gets bigger and louder and meaner (either because you've been rewarded for it or because it was the only way you could get attention), then you get labeled as bad and wrong. This makes it really hard for you to feel good about yourself or anyone else.


• So in conclusion, bad anger is the kind that either rattles around inside you causing problems, or the kind that comes out in eruptions and explosions causing problems for everybody.

Since we're talking about what makes anger bad, you might be wondering...how can anger be good? That's the big question, and we're going to answer it for you.

Keep reading, and I think the whole concept will get easier and easier for you to understand.

You might be surprised to know that many of the greatest things ever done in human history came from someone feeling a deep and powerful anger against injustice or oppression. Think of the American Revolution, the French Revolution, the Anti-Apartheid Movement and the abolishment of slavery in the U.S.

Think of what bothers you, threatens you, or gets in your way the most. You can apply your healthy anger toward finding solutions and moving past those barriers to what you want.

Positive thinking is essential to making your anger good and useful...get daily positive quotes in your inbox.

When your anger is working right, it fires you up in positive, constructive directions. Think of MADD -- Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and they got busy making things better for all of us.

A lot of folks feel like a victim to their anger...but you're not a victim to any of your emotions. That's what this newsletter and our anger management resource web site is all about.

I know I promised last month that this issue would focus on how to show respect for other people's boundaries...that will definitely be the topic for the November issue.

How Can Anger Be Good?

This is very tricky...when anger is good, righteous and healthy, it doesn't look, sound or feel like anger at all.

Do you think those moms in MADD looked angry while they sat at those typewriters, writing their congressmen and congresswomen, taking action to form their organization to make our roads safe from drunk drivers? Probably not. But they were busy, and focused, and getting the job done.

Here are some steps you can take to make sure your anger is good and working for you:

• Make sure you know the deepest roots of your anger. That's your deepest pain, your greatest losses, and your most traumatic experiences.


• Once you've figured that out, use these tools to heal those old emotional wounds...or else your anger will drive you blindly in directions you don't really want to go.


• Learn all about what it means to be assertive, and how to have tough love.


• And the topic of healthy anger is so important, we have a whole web page devoted to it, so be sure and check it out here.

You will need to feel like you're worthy of this effort...so be sure you learn to love yourself and take effective action on your own behalf.

You are worthy of love, and you are worthy of the life you choose. You're going to need the fuel of your healthy emotions to create it.

This highly effective audio program, available as a CD or MP3 download, will help you heal your anger and get it working for you instead of against you.

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The Healing Anger Newsletter brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace.

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