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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "When Fear Comes Knocking"
May 15, 2024

When Fear Comes Knocking
Are You Buying What It's Selling?

May 15, 2024
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #192

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Contents of this newsletter

What Are You Buying?

When fear comes knocking, it has a message it's trying to sell to you. It pretends to be protecting you from threat, but is it really protecting you, or is it getting in your way?

When you let your fear remain unconscious, it will have its way with will not knock, it will just barge in and take over.

Our goal here is to bring your fear into conscious awareness, so that you can hear its salespitch and decide whether you want to buy what it's selling. We will also help you shift from fear to full conscious awareness, which works much better!

What does this have to do with anger? Everything! Fear is the fuel for anger, and when you master your fear mind, you will master your anger.

  • Here is fear's salespitch: "There are lots of bad things happening, and a lot more to watch out for. You should be afraid, anxious and tense, and look for solutions outside yourself." This acutually shuts down higher brain functions and interferes with smart decision making.

  • Before you let fear in, or run off looking for external solutions, ask yourself...what is this fear really offering me? The answer is, nothing. It has no solutions to offer, except to point you toward outside solutions like medication, entertainment, or addictive substances (which can include food for some of us...)

  • The fear salesman at the door of your mind is actually selling you something that diminishes your personal power, and reduces the effectiveness of your immune system.

  • I suggest you greet him at the door, and say, "Oh, thanks very much for stopping by! I'm not interested in what you're selling today, I'm busy being fully aware, while looking on the bright side of things and stepping into my future with enthusiastic optimism." You'll probably see a shocked look on his face, but don't worry...he'll be back. But every time you say "No thanks!" you will get stronger in your mind and emotions, and physically healthier to boot!

If you're not paying attention to the activity of your mind, you won't hear the knock at the door, and fear will walk right in, take over, and begin doing your thinking for you. It will pretend to be you. It is truly a dangerous imposter!

Think of it this way...

Fear is a creative mechanism, just as faith and optimism are creative. Fear creates what you don't want, faith and optimism create what you do want.

William DeFoore

Claim the full real estate of your mind by reading and studying the book Goodfinding: A User's Guide to EQ and Your Brilliant Mind. The entire book is devoted to exactly that goal, and the ebook is on sale for only $.99.

Your mind is supposed to work for you, not against you.


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